On being called fat

Thursday, May 05, 2011

The other day, I went to a wedding reception with some coworkers. One guy brought his girlfriend who none of us knew. My friend and I overheard her talking to him, trying to differenciate the 2 of us: "So Hope is the fat one and Grace is the really fat one?" (I'm Grace.)
First of all, this girl is at LEAST my size if not bigger. Secondly, sure, I'm pretty overweight, pick on me if you must, but Hope isn't a day over 140 pounds and she looks gorgeous. None of us got the best vibes from this chick to begin with, and I shouldn't let it get to me because she's obviously got a very skewed perception or she's just trying to be manipulative to her man? Sigh. Still, I can't shake being called "The Really Fat One". But writing it down helps.
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    Wow wow wow, thank you all so much!! I had forgotten how good it feels to get support like this. I'm giddy even. I can do this! Thank you all for reminding me of that! =D
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  • MARTY728
    Saw your blog title in my feed when a couple of common SP Friends posted to your blog. I had to check your blog out. I had a weasel (yes he is a real weasel and a skunk also) call me big guy today. I asked the weasel, "Do you know how to keep an idiot in suspense?" I paused and he just looked at me, so I continued, "I'll give you the answer later."

    I try to remember every day that my form is temporary and my classy behavior is permanent. Many days I get stares at the gym from those that have never struggled with their weight. Sometimes I even overhear a whisper or two. Things like “I would never let myself get that big”.

    I hope you do not mind that I have added you as an SP Friend.
    3216 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/5/2011 1:29:15 PM
  • MMACHICK2010
    I guess I am not a very nice person! I had a very similar personal experience... And took a few deep breaths and then walked right up to the woman and let her know that I heard what she had said and that I was going to take comfort in the fact that I was taking steps to change how I looked on the outside... and wished that she would be able to figure out how to fix what was wrong with her on the inside.
    3216 days ago
    Wow...my first response is "What a b****!"

    And then I have to ask myself what is so wrong in her life that she has to tear down people to make herself feel better?

    I'm so sorry you have to overhear that. At least you know that you are working hard to become healthier... :) And she will never be able to take that away from you, no matter how hurtful her comments. :D
    3216 days ago
  • JMAGEE8871
    I'm so sorry you had this happen. Just remember that you can keep at your healthy habits and lose weight, she can never fix ignorant.

    You are beautiful and she can never take that away from you, keep your chin up.
    3216 days ago
    I'm sorry you had to hear such ugliness coming from such an ignorant person. Apparently she is one of those that will always be FINE no matter what.

    Rather than think of her words as hurtful, think of them in a positive light, because to me, she sounds as though SHE is the insecure one that needs to put others down in order to feel good about herself.

    Don't let it get you down. Keep your head up.
    3216 days ago
    No matter how much we weigh there is always someone bigger than us. It is our way of rationalizing our size to ourselves. Try to make this hurtful comment into a positive that you are perceived by others as fat and therefore need to start working to correct this. Hopefully, next year she'll say, "Is that Grace? I don't recognize her."
    3216 days ago
    some people just need to learn manners thank goodness you don't have to be around her much
    3216 days ago
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