Can You Shake Sense into Someone?
Friday, April 15, 2011
Ever wish you could just snap your finger and the world as you know it would fall into alignment?
I was talking with my mom yesterday and she's telling me about this new diet she's trying. For 6 days you eat only vegetables and protein-primarily beans- and drink only water. Then on the 7th day you eat whatever you want. I guess the trick is you slow down your metabolism (your energy, patience, liklihood of good decision-making skills...) for those 6 days and on the 7th day your body is shocked with all the foods it's been deprived of and you lose a bunch of weight. And you keep this up until you get really sick of beans then binge on a ton of food and gain all the weight back. I'm sure the book phrased it a little differently than that, but that's what I gathered from it.
I WISH I could pour my thoughts and habits about food and exercise into her head so it could all just click. She signed up on SP a while ago but didn't like the online aspect of it and the need to constantly track food. She said it "wasn't for her". So when we were talking yesterday I asked her why she just doesn't write out her meals for the week so she doesn't have to worry about tracking online and after a couple of weeks she could LEARN how to eat and quit doing these ridiculous fad diets. She claims she knows how to eat but that she just wants to see a big drop on the scale then she'll slowly reintroduce foods and start eating healthier. Magically, I suppose...
I guess I can't speak for her, or anyone else but me for that matter, but I was astonished at how much I learned about portions and nutrients my first few weeks on here. I'm still learning every day but WOW, what a difference it's made in my life. It really is the SIMPLEST thing. Eat well + exercise = weight loss. I was also incredibly grateful to find out now that I've begun running 3-4 days a week that I'm SUPPOSED to eat more carbs. Doth my ears deceive me, or is that an angelic choir I hear? I LOVE carbs. How exciting is it that I get to eat a cup of pasta instead of a 1/2 cup?!
I want so badly to help her "see the light" but if someone is unwilling you can't shove it down their throat. It just makes me sad because I know what being overweight feels like. I know how badly your back and knees hurt; I know how much clothes shopping sucks; I know being in pictures is a nightmare; I know how awful it is to rotate through the same 5 outfits every week because you've somehow managed to eat your way out of all your skinny clothes; I know depression, inside and out; I know what avoiding public outings feels like; I know loniless; I know envy; I know tears; I know the temptations. I've been there. On bad days, I still struggle with some of these things. But I know the flip side of it, too.
I know the exhiliration of needing to get a smaller size to try on; I know the happy shock that hits you when you see a picture of yourself after it's just been taken; I know the glorious simplicity of getting dressed in under 2 minutes; I know the proud feeling that hits me after making good food choices; I know the amazing feeling of pushing my body to its limit; I know the way I feel during a run; I know energy; I know peace...
What I don't know is how to relay all this to someone without getting preachy or condescending. Any other Sparkers experiencing the same frustrations? How are you handling these challenges?
Today's song to check out: Little Lion Man by Mumford and Sons