Hubby's health woes

Monday, April 11, 2011

I just got off the phone with hubby. He took the initiative and made a dr appt and went in today. He has type-2 diabetes, kidney disease (most likely caused by the diabetes), high blood pressure, gout, high cholesterol, sleep apnea, and who knows what else.

A few years ago, he had a staph infection of the type MRSA, which is the worst type. They took care of it, but in the past few months, he has been getting boils. I didn't know what boils were before, but let's just say, they're gross! He has one on his finger and it is like a big zit -- pussy and throbbing and hurting. He also has a pulled tendon or something like that in his upper arm and he said that really hurt. Turns out the tendon thing is really a secondary infection caused by the staph. The dr lanced the boil (that's why she gets paid a lot!) and told him that dialysis is in his future.

I have been a member of SP since 1/3 and have been doing great on the "healthy living" band wagon. DH got pneumonia in December and I think he was diagnosed with diabetes and kidney disease around then. So since I've changed my eating habits, I have been trying to convince DH to change his. I'm changing mine so I can be skinny and cute ( emoticon) but he needs to change his or he will die!

I know that men are usually not as healthy as women, and husbands are usually older (DH is 4 years older than me) and men don't live as long as women, but good grief! The man is only 46! He's aged more in the last year than in the 15 I knew him before that. I don't want to be 50 years old stuck with a 90 year old man (who's really only 55!)

Last night I was in bed trying to sleep and DH and DS were downstairs. DS yelled "Dad! Dad! Are you OK?" and then yelled "Mom! Mom!". I freaked out and ran downstairs thinking that something bad had happened. I said "What's wrong?" and they both looked at me like I was crazy. Apparently, DS was watching a TV show where someone yelled "Dad, are you OK?" so he yelled it, too. (He's 11, what can I say.) And then he wanted to ask me something and didn't realize I had gone to sleep so he was yelling for me. Maybe I'm just being a hypochondriac, but it scared me.

And so that was my Sunday night.
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    i can certainly understand where ur coming from...and ur not a hypochondriac...far from it sis. glad hubs' taking that initiative with his health. i will never understand why it takes men longer to finally see take care of themselves...but its a blessing when they do. emoticon emoticon emoticon
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    I'm so sorry to hear about your DH. That must have been an awful scare last night. I hope things improve with him - especially on the eating part - that will help tremendously!
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    emoticon I bet you went flying down those stairs! I would've done the same thing. I'm sorry to hear that your DH is so ill. Maybe between you and the doctor you can scare some sense into him.

    I'm having the same battles with my DH, just not on that level. He's hypoglycemic, and doesn't eat often enough, so he's constantly cranky and can't understand why he's so tired. Hmm.. maybe I should tie him up and drag him to the doctor too.
    3517 days ago
    Fear and worry are just natural instincts and not easy to set aside! You are and have been setting an example for him to follow which is awesome! I hope he'll listen to all the information that's being given and take the serious steps to change his life! Hugs!!
    3517 days ago
    I went to the dr on Friday to get the results of my bloodwork and mentioned to the dr that I didn't think he was taking his health seriously. I asked her to talk to him and she said she would next time she saw him, and she also said she would have her nurse call him and check up on him. Then he went to see her today because of this and so she had the perfect opportunity to talk to him. That's why she told him dialysis is in his future -- to try to scare him.

    He's had the HBP for maybe 10 years and gout for 5-6 years, but was only just diagnosed with the diabetes and CKD a few months ago, so I don't think the HBP and gout were caused by the CKD. The dr thinks the CKD was caused by some of the HBP and gout medicines he took. I think.

    We went to the grocery store tonight and I made him go with me to pick out some healthy foods that he would actually eat. I told him that I was NOT pleased that he was so sick and that he better have a lot of life insurance and I was upset with him and I think he might have started to get the message a bit. He is out right now on a walk and I told him to make sure he raises his heart rate to make it count.

    I'll keep you posted! Thanks for all the good info!!!
    3517 days ago
    If your Hubby isnt following the Renal Diet for Kidney Disease, which usually takes predecease over the diabetic diet, he and you will have some very serious problems. I dont want to scare you, but i work at my CKD diet so hard, for i dont want dialysis. It will save his life but if you can avoid it then do.The gout is from CKD, there is some thing they can give him for it. Also I'm thinking High blood pressure from CKD for i have it but under control now. I'm sorry to say this but if he is like a lot of men, you will have to be in control or help him to be in control. But you can only do so much and he has to do the rest for him self.. Did you go with him to the DR. if you dont I'm sure he wont tell you every thing, I'm just going by how my Dad was and to a certain extent my dear hubby. I would call the Dr. office and get the information and copy's of his blood work. This way you can tell what his GFR is and what he is high and low in, From Vitamins, minerals,blood work, potassium , calcium,protein, fluids, uric acid(gout) cause, phosphorus, sodium, iron, on and on. Best to you both. I am not a Dr., im just trying to help you understand , its going to be a big adjustment for all of you. If he follows Dr. orders he will do fine.
    3517 days ago
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