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I feel like something I had misplaced is being recovered.

Sunday, April 03, 2011

I was cruising sparkpeople and I noticed an entry with a lot of responses.
It was someone asking when in your weight loss did people notice.
Very interesting responses, some people not wanting comments from people and others wanting the comments.
Some people yelling that your supposed to do it for yourself, some saying how they even know someone who is losing but don't know if it is right to mention it.
Mention it.
It doesn't mean you thought they were fat and ugly before,
I actually adore when someone notices.
Even the ones who rave about my hair when its the same cut I got last summer. (Because it looks better with thinner cheeks lol.)
Seriously though, I have noticed that some people are not sure whats different so you get a more general compliment, and thats fine with me also, because I am looking more healthy, more confident, more energetic.
I feel like something I had misplaced is being recovered.
I had always sung at work, not loud, ( mostly ) but there is always a song either in my head or the music from the piped in speakers playing in the background.
Now my feet are tapping too. Legs are moving. Feeling playful.
But about being notice, and positive reinforcement.
First I have my good sparkfriends. Thank you, You know who you are.
Then I have a few people at work, four of us discussed that our goal was to lose weight in jan and we buddied up, so we are quick to point out when someone's face is looking thinner , or their ass, Or If we see a slimmer back
etc.
Then their are the people who have no idea you are trying, and they are the best verification that its working when they notice.
Yesterday at work I was in the kitchen walking to the back when I overheard two of the cooks talking about me. The one had been away the last two months. He said to the other one, "Doesn't cindy look great, she lost a lot of weight, and the second one answered, Yeah she does. "
That put an extra skip in my step.
Its funny because there are people who will never say a thing, not ever, not about anything. I can come in when I cut my hair from long to short, and never a word. I don't let that bother me, these are usually people who never change their own appearance. I also notice heavier people, they either notice and want to know the how of it or again never mention it. I tell the ones who want to know how and the other ones I understand.
Again on sat I was feeling confident and playful and my best buddy at work had an awful head cold and was miserable, well she called me at home last night and apologized for being in a foul mood and to tell me that I was looking and acting great in body and mind, and that I was so full of life that she wanted to stab me quite a few times. lmao but that was the best compliment too.
Thank you friends for listening, and noticing.
cindy
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  • CINDIDIT
    Love that smile, keep them coming. I got that same feeling again today after completing an hour of cardio, I felt so awesome, like if I could bottle it up it'd be great, And yes i am so glad you are sharing and walking along beside me on this journey.
    Now let me go finally find out what the devil an ihorse is, I have been very impatiently waiting to find out.
    Cindy
    3616 days ago
  • NAVYMOM133
    LOVE this blog, Cindy!! I feel like I'm finding something misplaced too, and it IS a great feeling.
    I have to agree with you: Say it! Give the compliment!

    By the way, you Look AWESOME!!

    Mabell has a good point that sometimes people may be wishing they had gotten going with their own plans and promises to themselves, and just can't bring themselves to be thrilled for you.
    Branewme is also right, the whole PC thing, and yes, there are situations where it would be inappropriate for someone to comment using specifics. However, what will ever be wrong with "You look really great today!" from people who mean it? From friends? family?

    I think the whole 'swing in the step, song on the lips' thing is one of the very best feelings that comes along with taking good care of ourselves and shedding unwanted pounds, firming up!
    I am SO PROUD of your progress Cindy. I am just loving that we're in the same place here, January timeline and everything. Isn't it nice to have the upper hand and lowering scale BEFORE Spring really gets here?
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    We will NOT stop! Let's Keep Going!! We're doing it!!
    Oh, and be good! Off to ride my iHorse. Blogged about the thing... er - I mean my April Challenge.
    emoticon can't stop smiling!
    Melly
    3616 days ago
  • BRANEWME
    In this day and age of political correctness and litigiousness, you sometimes have to be careful about commenting on someone's appearance. I understand when people don't comment and don't think anything of it. There have been times when I actually don't welcome the comments about being thinner and this is usually because the comment is coming from someone I know is just sleazy or creepy and don't feel comfortable that *that* person is noticing my body.
    3616 days ago
  • MABELL1WFTX
    Great BLOG and so true. I don't believe people fail to comment because they fail to notice, but because they want to do the same thing but don't do whatever. I feel so sorry for those people. They want what someone else has, but won't take the steps to move in that direction and feel the pain. They are hurting. They, too, want to recover something they misplaced.
    3617 days ago
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