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The Dressing Room Mirror

Friday, April 01, 2011

I do not like the mirror or the cellulite hat looks out from it!

I have been frantically looking for a dress to wear to my son's wedding which is in three weeks. It is going to be a beach wedding in the state of Maine. I saw on face book today that Maine woke up to 4" of snow, so I'm hoping that this will be the last North Eastern storm and spring will hit with a big bang! Needless to say I figure whatever dress I choose I need to have a warmer cover for it. I want it spring looking so this has been a challenge. Then let's add the foot problem...

I've been in physical therapy for over a month now trying to get my heel to not be in excruciating pain when I walk. I have wore orthotics and sneakers for years because of varies foot issues, and this heel issue has been around for almost a year now. Needless to say I'm pretty sure with the wedding on a beach and with a painful heel I will need to wear flats. The good news is that there are a lot of choices for flat shoes right now with the spring season on the horizon.

I need a dress that will be perfect for a beach wedding and also be flat shoe pretty. I found this one online that I love, but I can't picture what shoes I would wear with it and it looks like the jacket is a bit thin.

Also - I'm sure with the right haircut and facelift I could look just lilke her!

I'm thinking I want to have a long dress that will hide any shoes, but I'm not good at these decisions. I have a lack of girly intuition. As a matter of fact when I was wandering around the store the other day all I could think was that I needed a sister - I felt lost.

I have found a couple of dresses that I tried on - the first day I hated my arms - those mirrors are brutal. The next day I came home and told my husband I needed a long dress to cover my legs that I hated them - He said, " I thought you hated your arms?" What I can't dislike both? SO bottom line - I need a long dress to cover the legs and feet and a cover for the arms for warmth and flab coverage. I really should have been more dedicated to my strength training. Oh well I'm out of time now and must take what I have to work with and make the best of it.

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    This site sells a very pretty flat shoe that comes with two insoles, one soft and one hard, and is said to fit wide feet:
    3646 days ago
    Beautiful dress! What a great choice! And you are so lucky, because metallic shoes for even casual wear are so in right now. So if you get silver sandals you will even be able to wear them with jeans (!!!) So cool! You will be as pretty as you feel. Be confident and it will be reflected in the way you look. Love ya!
    3646 days ago
  • no profile photo CD6758122
    Can't wait to see what you picked !
    3651 days ago
    Love the dress! For shoes I would definitely go with flats (when you're in pain don't even go for high fashion go with comfort otherwise you will be miserable) especially for a beach wedding. I have a nice pair of silver flats that dress things up just nicely but still let me be comfortable. Ohhh and don't forget the barefoot option because no matter what shoe you wear you'll probably get sand in them anyway. lol emoticon I'm sending you sunshine.
    3660 days ago
    Love the dress. I would go with silver or gold ballet flats and matching purse and jewelry. Nordstrom's has everything you need online. And don't forget the spanx to work miracles under that lovely dress. Just got everything I need for my niece's wedding on the beach May 6th in Conn. online. Love hassle free shopping. Hope the weather cooperates. emoticon
    3662 days ago
    I LOVE the dress in the pix...and, since it's on the beach..more casual..what about having a mani-pedi done and going barefoot?? i love that idea..not sure if you do..

    A long, flowing dress..maybe a pretty, casual shaw, and no shoes..i love it..that's my idea SISTER-FRIEND emoticon emoticon
    3669 days ago
  • BAM-MA
    We should get together! I have been where you are (would still be if I had a big event to plan for) and am also a seamstress and sometimes designer. I find it much easier to help other people choose than to choose for myself.

    I will be your "sister" and help you look beautiful! But then again..maybe you don't need me. The dress that you showed here would be beautiful and I am sure that you could find some lovely silver flats to go with it.
    3669 days ago
    I love the dress in the photo!
    3670 days ago
    Ah yes, the challenge of making over those eyes which look at the mirror...! :-)

    Bet you will do fine and look wonderful! Hope Mother Nature cooperates...!

    3670 days ago
    I feel your pain--I hated having to shop for Mother of the Bride (or Groom) dresses. Finally got done with that and I'll someday (not too soon I hope)be shopping for a Grandmother of the Bride dress.

    I have no advice to offer--I go for hiding all that I can possibly hide!! Feet/ankle problems mean absolutely no heels for me, so shoes aren't quite so bad.

    Good luck in your quest to find "THE" dress!!
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    3671 days ago
    The dress is perfect for a beach wedding. You do not want a full length dress due to dragging it in the sand. Or is the wedding going to be on the beach or just near it? I would go with the flats. If you can afford them, go to a high end shoe store where you can get quality and a nice cushioned sole. I love my Rockports and bought them at an outlet store 15 years ago. I wouldn't wear them to a wedding now, but I still wear them to work and shopping. They are comfortable and polish up beautifully. You might want to invest in a lacy shall to throw over your shoulders if you get too cold. I actually packed my coat to the last outdoor wedding and put it on. Have fun. The dress is beautiful. It will be slimming because of the V lines and the arms are covered. Order it. If you don't like it or it doesn't fit, send it back. I like the silver with the lavender, but then you have no where else to wear the shoes. Black shoes would be okay with some onyx jewelry. White shoes are a little early, but would look good with the lavender and pearl earrings and beads. If you have lots of silver jewelry, go with silver shoes. They would look so good with this dress even if they have limited use.

    Thanks for letting me be your sister. We want to see lots of pictures when you get back.
    3671 days ago
  • no profile photo CD6063397
    You will look Good emoticon in " Whatever " you are going to where that day...
    3671 days ago
  • WILLOW49
    I wore a long-sleeved dress with sandals to my son's wedding last Oct. (in GA). My dress was teal with a black chiffon overlay, so black sandals looked good.

    Whatever you decide on will be fine. What's most important is being there for your son's wedding!
    3671 days ago
    I don't have any advice to share, but wanted to wish you lots of luck and energy to find the "right" dress.


    Is working with a personal stylist/shopper at a department store an option for you? I've never done this, but have heard positive feedback from women who have utilized this service.
    3671 days ago
    I love the dress pictured! Maybe you could get ballet flats dyed to match it...that would be really pretty. I think the style and length would be very flattering and more practical than a floor-length dress on the beach.

    I'm sure whatever you decide will be fine. And your happy face and smile and love for your son will matter a lot more than what you wear!
    3671 days ago
    I am going to see if I can find a picture I have of a dress and e-mail it to you. It is long in length & sleeves, light so you won't be too hot.

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    3671 days ago
    This dress is very pretty! I would wear it with some nice pumps.
    3671 days ago
    Your sarcasm is hilarious! Don't forget that it does bite though, and don't be so hard on yourself. Sorry re: advice for beach wedding, I'm no stylist... just had to comment, you're so funny
    3671 days ago
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