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Hello There Beautiful

Thursday, March 17, 2011

For me, and other people, learning to love your body, no matter the shape or size, is difficult. I did things a little backwards though. At my heaviest, I felt beautiful. I could look in the mirror, and not be repulsed by what I saw. I knew I wasn’t healthy, and I was severely overweight, but I could still see beauty in myself. Then, I hit my wall and started my journey to where I’m at now. That included watching what I ate (eat), working out, and learning what I needed to do to achieve my longer-long term goal, how to do this the healthiest way, and also what I’m putting into my body and what I’ve done to my body. That last bit, the “what I’ve done to my body”…THAT’S the sticking point. I’ve learned how much I’ve abused my body by allowing my drug of choice, food, to rule my life.
For months, every time I’ve looked in the mirror, I have felt disgust and not love. I look at my sagging skin that had been stretched out, and think “dear Lord, I’m going to have to have surgery to truly tighten everything.” I put on make-up, doesn’t help. I do my hair, doesn’t help. Somewhere along the way, I lost the ability to see myself as beautiful.

Things started to spiral down, and the darker my mood got, the more I hated my body. And I got angry. People have always pushed me to lose weight; to get healthy. NO one told me that I would have to re-learn how to see myself. That I would have to deal with some severe body image issues. I might have been fat, but by God I loved my body and who I was!

Then, I started to take control of my life again. I started to work out again, which helped with getting back on track, losing more weight, and feeling better/ happier. I started to watch what I was eating again. Measuring, and counting, and I joined Sparkpeople. And things started to turn around. I was able to connect with people who understood weight loss, what you go through, and healthy guides to get me back on track.

And yesterday, it happened. I was getting ready, and when I put my glasses on I looked at myself in the mirror. For the first time, in a very long time, I felt beautiful. And that feeling has carried over. I may not always love my body, but I feel beautiful again, and for that, I am very thankful
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    There's so much that we're not told about this journey, isn't there! I'm so glad you had the 'beautiful' moment. Thanks for sharing
    2641 days ago
  • TBID227
    Thank you for sharing your 'moment' with all of us! I know exactly how you feel! I am so glad that you see yourself as beautiful again! I am all for looking and feeling great and even if you are not as healthy as you would like to be, you are getting there! Loving yourself and making sure you are worth the work you are putting in is so monumental to this whole battle! And we do have to learn to re-love ourselves after educating our minds about what we have done to our bodies, BUT it is doable and feeling great on the inside sure does help me! Keep on doing what you are doing and being the great motivator that you are!
    2645 days ago
    "NO one told me that I would have to re-learn how to see myself." This one of the hardest parts of the journey. Thankfully, I love me just the way I am - thick or thin.

    "... I felt beautiful." YES!
    2649 days ago
    This is a fantastic blog! I've looked in the mirror so many times and thought...well, the positive and the negative actually...I can't say that I've loved my body when I've been heavy; it's been hard to find clothes that look good, fit well, look professional, don't look like a bag or are too tight, etc. And as I'm losing weight, I feel proud of my accomplishments but I also feel like I don't have cltohes that fit, I feel out of proportion, I'm feeling funky in my own skin...the mixed emotions! Who knew the journey would be so cerebral, to emotional? The part I didn't expect. Thanks for putting it into words and sharing what I've been feeling! Karen
    2650 days ago
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