The Art of Extreme Self Care - Chapter 10
Friday, March 04, 2011
Reflections on Chapter 10 “Does That Anger Taste Good?”
This challenge was to speak up for yourself in a situation instead of swallowing your anger – which is extremely difficult for me. I am really good at just stuffing down my feelings when I get upset, as I think many of us are. And what makes it worse is having a job where I interface with angry people who sometimes become abusive. If they were treating me this way in my personal life, it would be easier to stand my ground and tell them to go “F” themselves and simply walk away.
But at work I struggle to politely tell them “you’re behavior is becoming abusive and I will have to end this call if you continue, sir.” Try saying that to someone who is cursing at you at the top of their lungs and see how affective it is. I can feel my blood pressure rising even as I write these words. I have co-workers who say to me all the time, “why do you take it so personally?” I would love to know how you can NOT take it personally when someone calls you a bitch for not giving out the private cell phone number of the general manager of your company.
I truly envy those people I work with who can let everything just roll of their backs. The are simply unaffected, it’s the coolest thing. I ask them to please teach me, but I realize that they can’t teach me, because it’s just their personality. The best I can hope for is to stay grounded in the knowledge that I am a good person who doesn’t deserve to be treated that way.