What's my payoff for staying fat?

An article I read asked what my payoff was for being fat. I couldn't answer that question. No body wants to be fat, right. Well, everyone has a reason for being fat according to them. What's mine? Mine has to do with men hitting on me. At the time I got fat, I didn't want them to. I was married and faithful. Although, getting fat did nothing to deter some of them. I didn't know if I knew how to tell them no. I was molested as a child. I am a people pleaser and saying no is hard for me and I was determined to be faithful.

I am no longer married, my ex-husband couldn't stand my fat. He doesn't like fat people. He thinks it is because they are lazy. They aren't. I worked in a factory, took care of him, 2 kids and the house , car and yardwork. Yet, he expected more from me. When I moved out, he moved a skinny blonde in. I'm still not happy about that, but evidently I wasn't what he wanted anyway.

I have no excuses now for being fat. Men still find me attractive and I still don't know how do deal with them. I would love to find someone to go out with and have a good time, but everyone I find just wants to go out and eat. I would like to do something else like go to the movies or go bowling, but they aren't interested in stuff like that. Most of them my age are just interested in one thing.

My payoff for losing the excess weight would be to get even with my ex-husband. I would show him that I can be thin too, but that I don't have to put up with him or his hard nosed attitude about fat people.