The first three are "before"; the last three are "after"
Most women don't talk about their decision to have plastic surgery. They take some time off to have a 'dental procedure', or go away for a long vacation and come back 'rested'.
That makes total sense—we feel vain, foolish, and we really don't want to be judged. And we probably hope you'll just think we're naturally young and beautiful, instead of needing help!
However…I am talking about it. I'm a psychologist, so I tend to talk about things most people have sense to avoid. But I want to understand. I need to understand.
(I do want to avoid boring you with self-absorption, which is the danger of introspection. Perfect example of total self-absorption—Julia Robert's character in the movie version of Eat, Love Pray. Good grief. Quit reading this if it reminds you of that in any way!!)
So…What did I do, and why did I do it?
The "What" is a "mini-lift". That's just the bottom of your face; nothing with the eyes, forehead, eyebrows or neck. Basically, they pull the skin along the bottom of your face back a bit, and hook it over your ears.
Why'd I do it?
Vanity? That's part of it, I'm sure. Not all of it, though—I'm actually ok with myself! If I didn't want to continue to work, I really don't think it would have come up. Not to please my dear husband, who thinks I'm lovely the way I am (I do love that man!) And not to avoid dealing with age. I believe it's a blessing that God teaches us "to number our days". Life is short. That's real, and we need to deal with it.
Yet age and time is part of the issue. But with a little more complexity.
Reason #1: I want to work 10 or 15 more years.
There are things to be done, and I want to do them. There are ideas I've just begun to develop, new research I haven't even read yet. And I'm healthy, and energetic enough to annoy some people, and I have no problem doing the things I want to do.
However--for men and for women, ageism exists. As we age, we are perceived differently, judged differently—not for the good, unfortunately. I work independently, but not in a vacuum. I hope this mini-lift will level the playing field just a bit, allowing me a few more years to 'play' in my field.
Reason #2: I'm "off"—always have been, always will be.
I know--that's no surprise to those of you who know me well! ;) But you might be surprised at how really "off" my bone structure is, especially in my face. If you've checked out the pictures, then you saw it, but in daily life, it doesn't really show too much. I move my face a lot—all that talking! But the asymmetry caused one side of my face to age quite differently from the other—and it bugged me.
Reason #3: It bugged me.
That's probably the bottom line. I know about the research, I know about the asymmetry and the impact on me, and I just didn't like it! My dear husband made some extra money and was willing to let me…so I did. (Yes, I should give money to the poor and needy—and I do, actually—and I can keep doing it longer if I keep working…loop back to Reason #1!)
So. Was it worth it?
Not sure yet. For the first 3 or 4 days, while I was throwing up, I thought definitely NOT!
Today, as I feel lots better, and see the difference in the place that bugged me constantly…I think probably yes.