more on the "credit where its due" front
Tuesday, February 08, 2011
well--that blew over with nary a ripple and friendship intact. i discussed this situation with a dear friend whose judgement i trust, and she advised me to talk about this with him. she surmised that his youth might have something to do with it--and pointed out that an easy lesson learned here might protect him from having to learn a very hard one later on. so today we had a talk--and he is rewriting that section of the letter. he did have a reason for it being the way it was--it sounded a little lame to me--but i am taking him at his word. the important thing is that he is doing the right thing now--and understands that the credit for something isn't half as important as how you handle GIVING credit. its a character issue and i am very pleased and proud of him that he "got" what i was saying and volunteered to correct it. the most important part to me is that we had a good level of communication, and our friendship is still the same as it ever was. we continued on after resolving this issue to have one of our very long chats--covering every subject under the sun.
my relationship with this young man is very special to me--and i am not good at resolving conflict well. i am very glad i went to my friend for advice and acted on it, and very glad that he is the kind of person that took what i said in stride and decided to "do better".
so all is well that ends well.