Still feeling inadequate

Sunday, February 06, 2011

I went out with friends today, and I got a lot of compliments about my weight loss and how I am doing. I am still feeling inadequate though, like I am still not beautiful or pretty enough and that I don't have what guys are looking for or what society considers beauty. People today are so influenced by society that its hard to resist the feeling of being not good enough. Even with my spirtual relationship and my closeness with GOD it's not enough to help me get confidence. I guess I mainly jealous of "thick" girls because they get the attention of men period. Regardless of ethnicity, nobody wants the fat girl and nobody wants the skinny girl with no shape.... I am not giving up on my diet goals but I just wish I knew what to do about this self-esteem issue.

People are sick of me talking about it. I am sick of talking about it, but some days I feel like I am nothing compared to what is out there. I know every girl has her issue, and I am special for a reason. However I would like to feel wanted or at least admired. I feel like I fall into the background so much and I am washed out by all the other girls who are media look a likes. A lot of the times I feel like crying because I start thinking about how I am not like other girls, and even though I shouldn't compare myself to anybody its hard to accept myself sometime.... I just wish I could love myself for who I am.
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    Well self-esteem issue are so hard and we make it harder because we feel everything.Just as you beat up on yourself it takes one day at a time to stop but it really help to hear from other out here. It is easier to give love than to take in love with questioning what they real meant. We one learn to take other by the words they say we love to love our body more.

    Keep up your hard work.
    3787 days ago
    I know............ all of these comments are helpful I just had to vent that out last night because women no matter what... are self-conscious about something. I mean its one of those things that I know my beauty aspects (eyes, hair, nice legs, no cellulite nice boobs) but on the flip side you see women with other aspects and it seems that men out there can't think for themselves like women do.... @ chaostheory35 yeah I believe there are some men who love large women or skinny women whatever.... but at the same time there are GROWN MEN succumbing to the pressures of society and that's what bugs me. Why do I have to change myself to get respect when men do nothing :( booooooooooooo emoticon
    3787 days ago
    I say this all the time - it bears repeating though.
    "Comparison is the thief of joy"

    3787 days ago
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    I was going through some of what you are..really low confidence and just not loving myself. What I did that helped a lot was
    1) switch ALL of my online names and persona's to confidence building names ("Queen Reina", "Beautiful Reina" etc)
    2) changed all of my pass words to things that mean I love myself in someway
    3) spend just a measly 5 minutes each day writing affirmations and positive stuff about myself.

    It took about 3 months of doing all this stuff everyday but my confidence is higher than it has ever been. I think we spend so much time telling ourselves negative stuff that we finally believe it. Spend a little time telling yourself positive stuff--it takes a little while to soak in and replace the bad stuff, but it has helped me.

    You are WAY worth the effort!
    3787 days ago
    The funny thing is, if you talk to a group of guys (and you can get them to be open and honest about it...not easy!)...they're all attracted to different types of women! No matter what your body type is--no matter how fat or thin--SOMEONE out there thinks it's hot! And whoever that someone is...they're not going to be attracted to insecurity.

    So just go out into the world with confidence and be yourself! Focus on getting what YOU want, and the rest will fall into place :) (Easier said than done, I know. Too much pressure on us girls!)
    3787 days ago
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