nothing succeeds like success (and cute puppy pic)
Friday, February 04, 2011
Okay--this photo doesn't have a whole lot to do with the blog--but i love it and it makes me smile. hopefully if anyone looks at this blog today it will do the same for them
Actually the story of this little puppy is kind of what i am writing about. Several years ago my younger clumber had her one litter of babies. Rob and I co-own her with the breeder and this is part of the agreement. Clumber puppies should be bred and raised by people who really know and care about what they are doing, and the two folks we deal with are the best in the business. So when it came time for the blessed event, Dorijane went back to stay with the breeder for her "lying in". This is the person who raised her, so it was all very familiar and safe to her. However, the breeder had a trip scheduled to sweden, so when the babies turned 5 weeks old they (and their mommy) came to our house for two weeks and we looked after them. that was two of the hardest and most enjoyable weeks i have ever spent. this particular puppy was the most beautiful in the litter. i named her Ella (after the great ms. fitzgerald) and all the puppy visitors fell in love with her. she was bright and cheerful, smart and adorable. brave and outgoing. When the time came to place the puppies in their forever homes, the breeders decided to keep her and renamed her "reeva" (her registered name is "arrividerci roma". Reeva has grown into a lovely girl--and they adore her, but she is not flashy and grand, like her contemporary "allie" (see you later, alligator). always in the show ring, allie walks away with the big prize, and reeva takes second. she is conformationally sound as a dollar, moves beautifully and is about as "correct" as you can be, but she isn't flashy and eye catching. so she wins, but she never wins BIG. the breeders don't care--they understand the level of quality she possesses and value her for it. and she doesn't care--she is a dog. she has fun and always has a great attitude.
which brings me (finally) to my point. how do we measure success? when we are on a weight loss journey, we do it with the scale, and as the scale moves down, our motivation goes up and keeps us moving forward. but what happens at the end? we achieve our goal (or get close) and have a big celebration, buy new clothes (doing a series of happy dances in the dressing room of the store with our new pants that need to be hemmed puddling around our feet) and then what? the weekly reward of the scale moving is gone. the constant infusion of instant success stops. no wonder we loose our way. those hard fought battles are behind us--but so are the euphoric successes we reveled in when we won them. i don't know about anyone else, but i LIKE feeling successful. its kind of an unfamiliar feeling to me--having lacked self esteem my entire life--but i WANT to have those kinds of feelings on a regular basis. okay--so you can say--well MAINTAINING should be your goal now. the week to week care and attention to holding steady.
so whats the answer? i think sparkpeople has finally shown it to me--it is the constant setting and striving for new and different and challenging goals. once the weight is taken care of, then its time to turn my attention to other parts of my life. maintining the healthy lifestyle is a part of that--but i have to have other new and interesting challenges to keep reminding me that achievement can be a part of my life all the time, and in all aspects of my life--not just in my body size.
like reeva--i may not be the prettiest girl at the party--but i CAN be the most interesting one. all i have to do is keep setting goals and rising to the occasion.