One Month In...

Thursday, February 03, 2011

Well we are heading into month number two of the year...and well i'm so off the beaten path...i'm discouraged...sad...unfocused. many other words could really describe what i feel...but i'm just so sad...I'm addicted to food...and the diet thati need to try in order to really lose weight and keep it off and it will help me I have a hard time with it...I dont know what to do...i think about a food and think about it and think about it until i give in and then i binge on it and anything like it then the guilt and shame set in...sigh I dont have any excuses and i dont know if this means i'm not ready, I feel ready...however i have not made any moves to change...I stopped working out back in november. I feel all alone, I dont have the accountability i husband says he will lock the cupboards up so i dont eat..however that isnt very helpful...I need someone by my side to confide in and talk to and be a good influence..and i can t do this over the internet or long distance (which is where all my family is) I need someone close...sigh......anyway thanks fo rthose who read my vent..sorry...
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    You can do this!!! Not everybody hits the healthy path at a sprint- for most of us it's a run around in circles until we find what works.
    I was reading a study that said the reason why men are usually successful at weight loss is because they make small changes and stick to those one at a time until they're habit. Women usually try to change everything all at once- then we get discouraged and feel like it's all too much and give up. So maybe try taking a cue from the dudes- this week make one change and stick with it. Maybe start with water- make a habit out of drinking all your water every day. And even if that's the only change you make this week, and even if you lose no weight this week, celebrate that you made one change and don't worry about the rest. Then next week try making another change. Maybe that can be your exercise week- shoot for 20 minutes 3 times that week. So then that week you'll still be doing your water and you'll have exercised- woohoo on two changes, celebrate it! (even if you didn't do anything else) Then next week tackle fruit/veggies... the eating in ranges... etc.
    It'll take awhile, but before you know it all your habits will be healthy, water, exercise, food, sleep, whatever. But maybe by tackling one small thing at a time you won't feel like it's such a big mountain to climb. (just a series of little hills)
    And when you do slip off the path try and forgive yourself and get back on. Something I was told once that I try to remember- we never stay the same, so a year from now you'll either be healthier then you are now or less healthy then you are now. One bad day or one bad week or whatever won't make a huge difference in the scale of a year- it's what you try for consistently that will show. So keep trying, don't give up, all the little things will start to add up and make a big difference.
    3676 days ago
    I agree with Sandy and Berta. You can do CAN do this!!!

    Make smaller goals that you can focus on and attain. I want to lose 50 more pounds. When I see how far that is away from where I am at, I tend to throw in the towel. Ugh. I can't do this. But then I adjust my goal to lose one pound. I CAN lose one pound. So then I set my sites on that as my goal. One pound!! I can do one pound.

    I struggle with those urges, too. My family likes pizza....and I love pizza. I could eat a pretty good sized pizza all by myself. So instead of forcing myself to not have any pizza, my goal is to have a smaller amount of pizza. Then it is getting that food willpower under control and not denying myself of eating pizza.

    Water.....blehhhk....I used to hate water. Diet Pepsi was my "drink of choice." After a bazillion glasses of water, my body craves water and when I occassionally have a Diet Pepsi...I can't drink the entire can because it tastes "yucky" to me. It's funny how that works!

    Small steps, but steps in the right direction. Find the "small steps" that will head you in the right direction. Stay focused on them, stay encouraged, celebrate as you hit each small goal. See....I like the smaller the goal, the more often you get to celebrate. Not a bad deal.

    Get plugged in with Spark Friends. They can be life savers. When you are discouraged, they are there to encourage you. But remember....sometimes they are discouraged and need someone (like you) to encourage them. It's a system that works well.

    There are a few quotes that I use to describe SparkPeople.

    One is from C.S. Lewis....Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: What! You, too? Thought I was the only one.

    The other is found in Ecclesiastes 4.....If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!

    There is another quote that I have to remind myself of once in awhile concerning staying motivated.

    It is from Zig Ziglar....People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing--that's why we recommend it daily.

    So, my friend, stay focused, stay encouraged, stay plugged in to your support system....SparkPeople, friends, family or anyone that you can draw encouragement from....or give encouragement to. Make short term, attainable goals and celebrate as each one is met. Remember that this is a marathon and not a sprint. It does not matter how quickly you get to your goal, but rather that you are continuing to work towards your goal. Don't compare your progress to the progress of others, but do draw encouragement from their stories.

    You can do CAN do this!! And we will be right here cheering you on!!

    Hope you have a wonderful weekend. Best wishes always....Bill
    3679 days ago
    Follow Sandy's list, it will help you. Follow SparkPeople's established calorie allotment.

    Focus on weight loss, exercise, and drinking your water. I have kicked my water intake up by half again and it has helped me more than anything. The only way, that I can lose is by goal setting and staying focused.

    Keep working on it everyday. It will happen.

    3679 days ago
    Try using the Top 10 Tips below.

    1. Write Them Down. It's a fact: writing down your goals gives you a higher chance of success.
    ** START BLOGGING on your Sparkpeople page OR SHARE YOUR GOALS on the team chat board!

    2. Commit. Move beyond the land of "good ideas" to the land of true "commitment". Make the decision that you will show up for your goals. Perhaps you can do a ritual or ceremony to symbolize your commitment.

    3. Tell People. Let your biggest fans in on your new commitments and goals for the year. A good support system will help you succeed.

    4. Get Accountability. Even better than just letting others in on your "secret" dreams and goals-get some accountability. Meet for lunch once a month with a group that will ask you, "So, how's it going with your goal?" Hire a Coach. Talk to your best friend or partner.
    Participate in our February Buddy system here at the TC Team. Get some support!

    5. Make a Plan. Ensure success with a step-by-step plan. Figure out HOW you are realistically going to meet your goals for 2011.

    6. Do a Goal Check-In. Before you decide on what you'll take on for the year, make certain you can answer, "YES!" to the following questions: "Am I the primary reason for setting this goal (vs. your mom, boyfriend, wife, boss, society)? Do I feel alive and energized by this goal? Is this goal in line with my life purpose or mission?" ** I personally love this one - it is so important to do this FOR YOU!!!

    7. Get Real! If you're contemplating putting a goal down that you always put down and never achieve, take a second look. How will this goal end DIFFERENTLY this year? Is this goal something you need to let go of? What purpose is it serving you each year? What is the good enough reason to truly commit?

    8. Focus With Reminders. Once you've got your goals and plan in place, figure out ways to remind yourself. Post their goals in on their bathroom mirror or in their car. Put reminders in their palm pilots or cell phones. Figure out what works for you.

    9. Believe and Visualize. Do you know the story about the group of basketball players who spent one hour visualizing making baskets, while another group actually practiced? The visualizing players had better seasons! So visualize yourself on New Years Eve 2011 with all your goals achieved. What would that look like? How would it feel? Visualize once a day and see the difference it can make in your life.
    Many Sparkpeople friends actually make up a photo, blog entry, email, or design their page as their visual.


    Get positive and make goals, one to start with for a week, then add another soon you will have a lot of goals reached and pounds lost. You can do this. Sandy

    3681 days ago
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