Sunday, January 09, 2011

short version... ive been married 5 yrs this october. we just had a little boy this past october. Ive been going to a community college for the past 4 yrs part time taking classes and have been on a waiting list for 3 yrs for the radiology technician program. My husband and i agreed that we would have a baby before clinicals instead of waiting for me to be completely done with college.

After we got pregnant last yr, a month later i found out i got in the program last yr. I had to postpone to this yr because of the baby being born in the middle of the semester. we always said oh we will talk about clinicals and babysitting later doesnt apply now. now that it is getting closer i will be getting a letter in march for orientation and things to get prepared for clinicals....
Tonight my husband and i got into a discussion basically saying there is no money for day care and he doesnt know how I could go to school ...
i love being a wife, mommy to nathan, and i do love my job being a massage therapist. Im not as busy now as i was so not as much money coming in. I almost feel like the past 4 yrs of classes,time studying, and money have been a waste of time. I know nathan is my main concerned but it just kind of sucks that Im not going to finish this program. I started crying for no reason....i know things always happen for a reason...
anyways my husband doesnt know why im upset not finishing school.
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    thanks everyone... i did apply for a pell grant tonight. so we'll see what happens. we talked about it again and its almost that he doesnt want me to go to school. he says he does but he keeps saying well what about this or that. im not sure how the program is. we have a meeting march/april about what hospital we go to and how many days it is. i remind myself and him that other people have a harder time than we are right now.
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  • PSKIPPY7811
    Maybe check out for babysitters in your area? They've been screened and I believe their rates are posted.
    3499 days ago
    Check out all the options for available help, then discuss them with your husband and go from there. Right now things may seem impossible but you've come this far and shouldn't give up on your goal. ((((((hugs))))) and prayers for you and your family.
    3499 days ago
    I'm sorry that you're struggling with this dilemma Erin. I know how hard you've worked, with attending classes & working, & all! This has to be devestating!

    Is it possible for you to take a student loan to fund school & babysitting fees so you can finish school? Or can you attend evening & weekend classes so Mark can watch Nathan while you attend classes? Please don't chuck school all together! Talk w/a counselor at school & see what options you have! Is there a daycare at school you can utilize? Can you discuss this w/your parents & see if they wouldn't help you w/daycare expenses?

    School is an investment for your future...please consider options before you totally give up! You don't want to regret not finishing...

    I know you'll do what's best! Good luck my friend!

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    3499 days ago
    im sure my parents can help babysitting but i kind of feel guilty, They have been helping me when i go to a clients house for a massage but thats not all day and only 1 or 2 days a week.... i was able to pay for books and school before on my own. the college had a program to take out 1/3s during the semester.
    then i wonder how can i study, work, be a wife and mommy at the same time, i dont know how single mothers do all of this on their own,

    3499 days ago
    Definitely look into all the options for child care. Maybe there's another mom you know who you could leave your son with on the days you have clinicals, and then you could take her kids on the other days. You know, switching off. It might take some doing to make sure it's equal, but that would basically be free childcare.

    Good luck figuring it out. I'm hoping to go back to school soon so that I can up my GPA and get into a Masters program. I want to become a licensed psychologist. The problem is always money, of course, but besides that there's my age; I'm turning 35 this year, and J and I want to have children. I'm still trying to figure out how I'll be able to manage being a mom and going to school.
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  • no profile photo DBODIN78
    I'm sorry to hear this! I can empathize with you...I've been trying to finish school on and off for years. It's hard, I have 2 young boys and have to work since we are struggling. I actually start tomorrow and I'm not sure what I'm going to do for books yet. It's hard to feel like you're stuck when you're trying to better yourself and your family. Hang in there...I know where you're coming from and I hope something works out for you emoticon
    3499 days ago
  • FRANCO1230
    Yes, I agree, look into all options...especially at the school you go to for daycare...leave no stone unturned! And just because you may not finish on the time-table you planned, doesn't mean you never will. I totally "get" your disappointment, but try to stay positive. If it is what you really want, I truly believe you will find a way to make it happen eventually.
    3499 days ago
    Are there any options for day care that you can explore? Something available at the school or perhaps grants you could apply for that would pay for child care. If you haven't already, you could check with your school - they might be able to direct you to affordable resources. You have put a lot of time and effort into getting into the program, and I sincerely hope that you will be able to find some way to manage it. I hope things work out for you.
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