"You're Getting Too Thin"

Sunday, January 09, 2011

I know it's out of love, I now sometimes it's thought as a complement. I have lost a lot of weight, I know, I made my initial goal, that's true. When I was 228, I thought 168 was not even attainable in fact I though 175 was a fine goal, The truth is I set a goal with out knowing what I would look like, what my body would be like, etc.
I spent the day with a friend who is my weight loss buddy, she is awesome! She is also convinced that I just need to "tone up" which is true, but she is not supportive of me wanting to continue my weight lose journey. I am still over weight, my body fat % is still higher than I'd like. I do need to tone my body more now to get more muscle definition but I also have about 15-20lbs to lose. I am frustrated with her because I still know the difference between excess weight and poor muscle tone but because she sees it as vanity weight it's not necessary. I know when I was big there was always the "naturally thin" person who was yapping about having to lose weight and for a long time, I would roll my eyes and ignore them. One day I was talking about this with my very wise mother and she agreed that it was annoying, but brought the point that who are we to say when a person is comfortable with their body. That point hit home with me like a lightening bolt and since that very conversation i try never to poo-poo a person about their own weight goals. I have set a new weight loss goal for my new year, the last 15-25 (subject to change) This includes the 10 I put on during balance and the holidays. I'm sad because I have stopped sharing my goals with her and don't want to say a thing about my new goals because she thinks I am somehow doing damage to myself. I am one of the lucky ones; I carry my weight very evenly and I lost it very evenly (except I no longer have a booty) never looked as heavy as I was, maybe that's the issue still.
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    I'm still at 165lbs, and my dad told me at Christmas "That's enough. Don't lose any more, you'll look haggard." So I also stopped talking about it, and just shut up and ate my salad. It's sad when people who should be supporting you fall away. Sometimes it's because they want you to "have fun" instead of worrying about your weight. But sometimes I wonder if we don't generate a little conviction in some people's minds that "well, if she can do it, I should be able to do it too". So they sabotage the efforts so they don't feel as convicted. I'm not saying that's what is happening in your case, but I do get that feeling from some of my friends who are urging me to stop the diet. I'm definitely NOT done yet!
    2690 days ago
  • KTJOE19
    it's funny because u and i are kind of in the same boat on this one. I've also had people tell me, "Don't get obsessed with losing weight", "you really think you need to lose more?" etc. I think it is because, YES, we are smaller than we once were and compared to where we started, we look great! BUT, if our goal is to also become healthy and actually "be thin", we know where WE want to be. I think it's difficult for naturally skinny people to understand it when they're never struggled before. Let's kick this last amount of weight and be happy for us. We did this for ourselves, for our health, for OUR happiness!!!!
    2690 days ago
    Stay true to your goals. You know your body better than anyone. I have changed my goals a few times as well--lower than what I originally thought I could ever attain. And just like you, people are calling me skinny. I love the compliments but I know I have a little ways to go! I can see it in the mirror! I am in the "normal" BMI range now but I feel I really need to get to the middle of that range to truly be "healthy". I'm on a bit of a plateau right now but I know I'll get there and so will you!! Best of luck to you!
    2690 days ago
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