Its not always HOW sometimes its WHY so be selfish

Friday, January 07, 2011

Its the end of day 7 on my "spark journey." Over the course of the week I have heard inspiring stories, heartbreaking stories, stories of failure, of success, of giving up, of holding on and of blood, sweat and tears pouring from the very hearts and souls of some members. And I noticed a trend....

The people who are trying to lose weight for themselves, are certainly struggling less. The people who are here because someone doesnt accept them the way they are, are struggling to carry a load much heavier than some extra stored food. The rewards for the first group of people include confidence, self respect, self gratification and usually something they have wanted for a while (new shoes, new jeans, ect.)
The rewards for the second group only come as a bag of empty shells. The people who tell them to lose weight ask for more pounds to be shed, more hours put into fitness or less food to be eaten, they are led on by hope and thought of love, not the reality of it, they are led on by words as empty as the persons heart who feeds it to them, and instead of self gratification and the feel-goods of working toward a healthier being, they are left to wallow in the neglectful, uncaring hands of people who should lift them up the most.

So, if you want to lose weight, and be healthier, its YOUR body, its YOUR life. be selfish, you should do it for YOU

I tell you this as an observation, and as hopefully a message: this site is called SparkPeople, i believe its more than a name, we look to each other to lean on, and fall on sometimes, in this walk for our own better healthy selves, but when you are carrying your spark, dont forget to help light or relight someone elses. emoticon
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    Welcome to Sparkpeople! I totally agree with you on your blog. I was married for 11 years to a man that watched everything I put in my mouth, pushed me to exercise everyday,etc. When I got pregnant he told me it wasn't an excuse to gain weight. Back then at 27 and weighing 150lbs, I was miserable. Now today at 44, I am re-married and my husband loves me for ME!! If I never lost a pound or gained he would still love me. I have shed 32 lbs since September, WHY?? Because I am doing it for me! I want to be healthier and I feel GREAT about my new lifestyle. My husband cooks for me and the family according to what we decide together something healthy, that fits into my plan for the day. I feel so blessed to have my health and to be able to recognize that being healthy is more important to me today than it was when I was told what to eat and when to exercise!
    Thanks for posting the blog, sometimes people are to scared to tell the people in their lives it's about Me not you!
    Lots of things going through my mind right now remembering the past, but that is in the past!!!!
    2661 days ago
    Thank you guys very much :) comments make me want to write more blogs :)
    sorry this one was shorter than the other two I have written, I just didnt feel like it needed to be longer.
    2662 days ago
    Good point, I'm sure it's given a lot of us something to think about.
    2662 days ago
    That was very well written -- good point!
    2662 days ago
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