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My Son Joshua.

Saturday, December 25, 2010

Morning to all and Merry Christmas!

I figured I probably need to get this written down before I think It's not important.

I have 4 grown boys. 2 live near me, 2 are on opposite sides of the country. One of them had cut off ALL communication with the family for nearly 5 YEARS!

To say this caused me endless grief would be an understatement...... He had just within the last few months been occasionally texting or calling his twin brother, so I now knew he was at least alive!

Well he showed up this Christmas!!!!!!! To say I'm overjoyed to see him, is not even to begin to describe what I feel.

BUT of course there are all of these messy emotions that keep getting in the way....... he has seen all of the family so far. He and I talked and cried for over 6 hours on Wed eve. I was so emotionally drained but overjoyed to see him. I feel we have done most of the hard work, and it is good, but of course the rest of the family has not. So the feelings keep getting in the way.

So much misunderstandings about things long past.......... the truth of all of that, is hard to hear and accept on both sides.

There was a flair up last night between him and his twin. I mostly stayed out of the middle of it. But cautioned both of them separately that this was going to be hard for all of us. That each of them need to realize what is going on inside of their heads. I love all my children sooo much.

The feelings of anger that we all feel because he abandoned us, are conflicting with the absolute joy to have him back! That we need to be respectful, but honest with all the messy emotions.

He has changed some good, some not so, we have to accept each. We also have to move on from this to become a family again.

Please if you are reading this please keep us in prayer now and then.

MERRY CHRISTMAS to all of you! and YEA GOD!!!

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  • EVELYN5877
    I have only just read this, a bit late, I'm sorry.
    It moved me to tears as I was out of touch with my only son, daughter in law and grandsons, for three years after a stupid row with my daughter i law, and my husbands refusal to forgive them. ( they were big enough to forgive us ). It nearly tore the family apart. I hope you can all get over this, and wish you the best of luck, patience, and general goodwill to help you. I am not a believer so cannot offer you any prayers, but the best of what man can do.

    Evelyn
    3594 days ago
  • NEELIXNKES
    I hope the rest of the visit was fruitful for all of you. Many good thoughts and prayers sent your way. emoticon
    3717 days ago
  • YORKITEER
    I will definitely keep you and your family in my prayers. Two years ago my youngest son married a girl that worked very hard to turn him against his family. She was very good at hiding what she was doing. By the time it all came out it was very near the wedding date. He is growing farther and farther from us and had nothing to do with even his nieces and nephew this Christmas....how can you hurt the little children...I don't understand....so I will definitely have you and yours in my prayers!
    3718 days ago
  • DARBOYMOM
    Thank you for sharing. So glad you are beginning to mend your broken hearts. Will remember you all in my prayers!
    3718 days ago
  • PJGABRIEL
    What a Christmas Present to have him come home, regardless of the past, he is home and may you continue to mend the fences and build a better relationship. Merry Christmas!
    3719 days ago
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    Wow - I think it had to take a lot of guts for your son to show up after such a long time, and with your family dynamic being the way it has been wrt the situation as a whole, no doubt it will take quite some time for the necessary processing to take place, so be patient with all, and especially be kind and gentle with yourself.......to know that this took place at all, and at such a significant time of the year, speaks volumes, so know that there is a glimmer of hope, fragile as it may appear at times.....

    I will keep you and your family in my best thoughts and wish you the best possible holiday season.....

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    3719 days ago
  • NOMIS1
    What a wonderful surprise for you. Hope it all works out well. Enjoy your family.
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    3719 days ago
  • ROSY_TIAMO
    I pray the Lord will help you fix your broken family...((HUGS))
    3719 days ago
  • LITTLELORIT
    I will keep you in my prayers during this difficult time. Hope you can at least a partially Merry Christmas.
    3719 days ago
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