On being an Optimist
Monday, November 15, 2010
Negativity in your life complicates the journey. It is like driving down a road following a pothole-making machine. Eventually you are going to bend a rim or worse. Listening to friends (or spouse) constantly berate your efforts does not bode well for your mind or spirit. But, do you egg them on by continuing to forego what is good for you? Or, are you your worst critic which invites more negativity into your life? So, why all the negativity and how does one go about stopping it?
Part of this journey is finding friends who are more upbeat, seeing a blue sky when others see a partly cloudy day. If you are negative, you will not attract optimists. Optimists learned over the years to give positive thoughts and avoid negative positions. Being a sinkhole for emotions will create conditions that optimists avoid. Opposites only attract as mates, not as friends. So whom do you want your friends to emulate? If you are the constant critic guess what your friends will be?
So, the first step in to become and optimist is to stop what you are doing. Talk in the positive and see the potential to be positive. This does not mean to cherry coat the world. Optimist can be realists too. Optimists realize nothing comes from immobility, indecisiveness, or deceitful behaviors. We must decide to see the best of any given situation.
We are what we do. I have said this many times. I will continue to stand by these words of wisdom. See the good you do in your life for yourself and others. Comment on these positive things by vocalizing a credible story of success each and every day. Take the time to realize the journey is never over. So, best enjoy the ride – even if it is in a center seat!
Some of my favorite quotes by Norman Vincent Peale:
Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear. Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow. But any action is better than no action at all.
Any fact facing us is not as important as our attitude toward it, for that determines our success or failure. The way you think about a fact may defeat you before you ever do anything about it. You are overcome by the fact because you think you are.
Four things for success: work and pray, think and believe.
Getting people to like you is merely the other side of liking them.
We tend to get what we expect.
Be at Peace.