Birthdays & Cancer

Sunday, November 14, 2010

I know that this is a weird title, but true circumstances as well. First of
all, I was diagnosed with invasive breast cancer this week. I will have a
mastectomy next Thursday and of course, chemo following shortly.
I am the only caretaker for my mom, whom I have taken care of for
the past three years, since my stepdad passed. I would not tell my
mom of my news, because she will be 91, 11/16. I knew she would be
devastated when she heard the news about me.

Today, we celebrated Mom's birthday and my husband's, his is on
11/15. We got together as a family and enjoyed a great meal together
and we were happy to be together. My brother lives over 100 miles
away from us and could only be here today. He is a professor in a
Christian college, as well as a counselor.

After the party, my brother took mom home per my request, to visit a
while longer and then tell her the news about me. She really took it
hard, but my brother calmed her down. I am sure that when he left,
that she did lots of crying. Later she called me and was crying and
I told her that I didn't want this and didn't need it. I told her that
she is going to have to talk to me w/o crying and be strong for me.
I reminded her that I had been strong for her, for the past 3
years and that now it was her turn to be strong for me. But she
made it perfectly clear she couldn't do that . I got off the phone.

Much later, I called and gave a really good pep talk, and I
reminded her that I was strong for her when she had cervical
cancer when she was in her 80's. I stayed with her for 11 days
while she went through a radical hysterectomy. She did well.
I think now that she will be okay. My DH will have to take over
doing many things that I have been doing, but it will all work out
just fine. God is with me and all my family. He will bring healing
to me and mom will do just fine. She is a strong woman and I
am just like her. Thank God!

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  • MICHELE142
    God has given you, your DH, and MOM birthdays since that diagnose and chemo, as he loves and cares for His children. We are His children and he does care. Cancer is a never ending journey and you are a fighter and a survivor. I wish you many, many birthdays. May God's face shine upon you an keep that courage going for you.

    God Bless

    3179 days ago
    Your blog reminded me of the day I had to tell my parents and all the hurdles I went through to keep it a secret until i finally got my biopsy results and knew for sure that it was cancer. You brought tears to my eyes ;o) but you also made me smile. Hang in there, trust me it will get better. I hope your surgery went well and I hope your chemo treatments aren't too difficult. emoticon
    3620 days ago
    Thinking of you today. Prayers & Hugs Debbie emoticon emoticon
    3692 days ago
    I know that I'm reading this after your surgery. I really hope it went well. Your blog touched me though, and I wanted to let you know. You are the epitome of strength and I admire you for that. emoticon
    3696 days ago
    You are a perfect example of an inspiration. That being said, please allow those around you to be strong for you, for a change. It will take time to get over the surgery (both my mother and sister are breast cancer survivors) and although they are really strong women (as I am) they needed a lot of support and hugs afterward.
    So I'm sending you a pile of hugs and offering you and your family best wishes
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    3698 days ago
    I wasn't expecting to see this glad I did.

    You are in my prayers daily.


    3707 days ago
    I'm sorry I just found your blog! You my friend are in my prayers and your mom will surprise you both with how strong she will be. But you are her support and I'm sure the news was devastating.
    Hugs and prayers
    3708 days ago
    Hugs, my friend. You spoke wisely.
    3709 days ago
  • BEEBEE75
    "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of TENDER MERCIES and the GOD OF ALL COMFORT." 2nd Corinthians 1:3-5

    This has always been a comforting scripture for me, hope it is for you also.

    Wish you success in your surgery.

    3713 days ago
  • CHRYS13
    My thoughts and prayers are with you.... emoticon
    3713 days ago
    "If God brings you to it, He can bring you through it."

    Blessings to you.

    3714 days ago
    My prayers will be with you...God Bless You! emoticon
    3715 days ago
    Wow, I know how scary this is. I have been through cancer.
    Keep close to the one who can heal you.
    I will be praying for you along with everyone else.
    Blessings and healing to you. Faith is such a wonderful thing in times like these. Glod bless.
    3716 days ago
    Oh, my... I am so sorry about your diagnosis, my friend.
    My thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.
    Please take care of yourself.

    3716 days ago
    Barb, You are always in my prayers. You are such a good friend. Also prayers for the medical community to make wise decisions and to take very good care of you.

    It is probably a good thing that your mom has such a strong and positive daughter. My daughter doesn't let me cry either. Is there some literature for your mom to read to help her cope and to know how to help you cope? I will add your mom to my prayers too.

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    3716 days ago
    You and your loved ones will remain in my prayers. I'm sending positive and healing thoughts your way. Stay strong.
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    3716 days ago
    Your Mother is afraid of losing her major support and care provider. Also, no parent wants to see their child go through what you're going through, so she is in "denial". You told her the right thing, that she needs to be the strong one for a while.

    I will continue to pray for a successful outcome with your surgery.
    Please try to keep us updated ?
    3716 days ago
  • SOFT_VAL67
    you have always offered up such encouraging words to me and now i am at a loss as to offer up words to you....
    i know you are strong and brave, hence the name......i will pray for you everyday and pray for your mom, and i know that with your dh and your church friends and neighbors and friends, your mom will be cared for....
    thinking of you and your family each day....
    3716 days ago
    Good morning,
    my prayers will be for you this morning at my church service.
    Blessings & Hugs.
    3716 days ago
    What a strong family you have. emoticon
    3716 days ago
    God Bless you and yours. This is a difficult time but you are right you are strong; so is your Mom, you don't get to 91 without building up a lot of strength along the way. You can get through this. May God surround you with Love. Love and Prayers, Joy emoticon
    3716 days ago
  • KML410
    Prayers to you and your family. May God give you the strength you need during this difficult time. emoticon
    3716 days ago
    I will be thinking and praying for you. Take care! emoticon
    3716 days ago
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    Prayers emoticon emoticon Peace to you and strength! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3717 days ago
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