Why I've been gone...
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
We've had a couple of sad and stressful weeks.
Last year we assisted our elderly cousin (my mother's first cousin) to enter an assisted living residence. It was a big job, to discuss the issue, find the appropriate residence and then to clean out the apartment.
While she was not entirely happy and didn't take part in programs (she wasn't a joiner), she did seem to be making an adjustment; was chatting with other residents and taking an interest in furnishing her room and caring for her plants.
Then about three months ago, she began to be a bit forgetful and have some angry outbursts when frustrated; then this escalated into hallucinations and delusions.
Two weeks ago after a brief hospitalization, it became clear that she would not be able to go back to the assisted living residence. We needed to find a long term placement.
I did some research and came up with a few possibilities that were closer to my home.
She was accepted last week in my first choice and was placed on the 8th of October.
I visited her a few times during the week and bought some items she needed until we could move her belongings.
My other cousin, my contemporary, who is taking care of the fiscal aspects of the situation, came up from North Carolina at the end of this past week. We closed her apartment in the assisted living residence; spoke to her attorney; moved her belongings and visited her.
This has been very difficult both physically, since there has been a lot of back and forth and more activity than usual, plus a house guest, and emotionally, in terms of the need for problem solving in a short time frame and the stress of watching a family member go through a great deal of suffering and being able to make only minimal impact.
For the most part, I've been able to stick to the caloric intake levels; however, the exercise has been a bit spotty.