Am I A Judge?

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

I took the Spark quick poll today "Be honest: Do you secretly (or openly) judge people based on their weight?" As I contemplated my answer, I was ashamed to admit I'm guilty of judging people for various reasons, and I know that is wrong. "Judge not that ye be not judged."

I don't judge a person because of her (or his) size as much as I do on what appears to be their attitude -- slovenly or well kempt, walking (I admire!), or slumped in a booth stuffing their faces with junk food (I'm sorry to admit I judge), clean and neat (I admire) or dirty and sloppy (I judge). But I know I shouldn't. I don't and can't know their personal issues, their lot in life, their mental state.

I can't know what they experienced growing up, what abuse or torment they faced, what hardships life threw at them. I can't know what disillusioned them or beat them down, or overwhelmed them. But I often picture them as a little child, running carefree and happy, and wonder what happened in their lives to make them lapse into their present condition. Maybe a friendly smile or a kind word would help them. I can do that!

Whenever I find myself being judgmental I feel guilty (as I should) and wonder what people think of me when they see me. Are they judging? Are they wondering why I'm fat (I'm about 65 lbs. overweight)? Do I look disgusting to them? Do they pity me? (Not a good thing!)

But I can't improve in order to avoid being judged—I can only improve because of my inner desires. I can only do it for me, not to please others. Which brings me back to judging others. I don't want to be judged! I don't want to judge others! Only I can control that. And I will work harder at being kind and not judging others because of contemplating the Spark Quick Poll. Thanks, SparkPeople!
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    Bad habits are hard to break. Our sinful nature is hard to break. But as you take those thoughts captive an replace them with a positive then I think you will create new habits. Good luck I think I can work on this too. I often find my self looking at someone and thinking that might be me in a year, and I don't want that.
    2743 days ago
  • JULIEO100
    Yes, i'm guilty of it also. And yes, this is a habit I would like to change also. I even find myself "judging myself". I heard something on KLOVE radio this morning about "doing". The quote is from a pastor from the 1800's and I don't have it memorized, but here goes; I am only one and I can't do everything, but I can do something and that one something just might be everthing to some one. God Bless you, my friend ~hugs~
    2743 days ago
    I had those same thoughts when I took that poll. I try to be better and see them as God sees them.
    2743 days ago
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