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Getting Used to Disappointing People

Friday, September 24, 2010

Well, tonight I was supposed to go to dinner with the in-laws. That didn't happen. I had all my calories by my usual time today -- 4pm. My husband was really disappointed when I called him to tell him I didn't think I should go, and that maybe they should go without me, or we should have breakfast in the morning instead.

Lately I've found that I've had to disappoint people more and more frequently when it comes to social eating. One of the things I have tried to avoid for so long is disappointing people -- not just in this area. The older I get, however, the more I realize that it's just impossible to avoid disappointing people sometimes. You have to follow your own conscience, or your life will be the product of other people's priorities. I can't allow that.
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    One of the reasons I love this program is because going out and being social are really important to me. I didnt want to have surgery and spend my life eating a teaspoon of food. That being said, I have had to find balance. When I know I am going out in the evening, I eat lightly during the day so I can have dinner. I also go online and plan ahead what I am going to order so I am prepared.

    I think it is fine to reschedule that event but you also dont want your family and friends to resent spending less time with you. I, too, agree that you have to do what is best for you however, rescheduling I think would be important so they know they matter to you. Stay strong!
    3134 days ago
  • MAIA2011
    I am very impressed with your decision. I took a long hard look at my eating problem and recognized that all I did was have lunch and dinner with friends and family. I have now distanced myself from all the hullabaloo and the people who really love me are willing to do other things, too, like walk or go to the beach or come to the gym or just talk. OK, well that's nobody (LOL) but that is what SP is for! Stay strong! You are doing this for you!
    3134 days ago
  • DIMI1124
    True you cant please everyone. It is a balance. I fell off the wagon 2 yrs ago and social eating was one of the issues. I dont have much of a social life so I am learning to have both and make healthy choices MOST of the time emoticon
    3134 days ago
    You have to do what's right for YOU! I am sure that they know how hard you are working towards reaching your goals and will understand.

    3135 days ago
    You need to make yourself happy. I'm sure they will understand!
    3135 days ago
    In addition to trying to stay within my calorie limit, I am a vegetarian and do not eat gluten. There are times when I accept an invitation and just have some tea or a side of cottage cheese or fruit.

    You can enjoy the company without piling on the calories.
    3135 days ago
    The right thing hurts sometimes...stay strong!!!! emoticon
    3135 days ago
    I am sure they will get over it!
    Do what you need to do to stay healthy!

    3135 days ago
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