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Am I gonna end up going to jail?

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Seems very sureal to even be typing those words. This is the deal:

There is a Huge horrid family feud going on. It started with some land stuff where my greedy sis reneged on giving a piece of property to my father after he did all clean up and the landscaping on it. She had told him she would give it to him to payback the $60,000 she owes him (the land isn't worth that...it is only 2.41 acres)

After he had worked on it for about 4 months getting it all pretty, with her stalling about the deed the whole time, she informs him that she won't give it to him because he will leave it to me when he dies. WTF?!?!? They try to sit down and talk sensibly about it but one of them ends up blowing their stack every time. She is adamant that he's NOT getting this lil piece of land.

(side note: less than 14 months before this he has paid for a used mobile home and had it moved onto her property adjacent to the disputed land. He also did the labor and paid for the material to have her water line put in almost 1100 feet across his land from the roadway.)

Sooooo.....She refuses to give him the deed to this property...He proceeds to rip up her water line which is running 1100 feet across his land.

Next up: She and the dude she has married in the meantime rip a foot deep ditch up the center of the private drive that goes to my house, then her house, then our cousins house. In this ditch in the middle of the drive, which is quite hilly, she plants her water line. WTF?!?!? Down the middle of a road and only a foot deep? Really?

The land the drive is on is actually my niece & nephews (not her kids). She never asked permission...just did it.

Okay, water line less than a foot deep in the middle of a roadway...It is gonna cause problems....It starts leaking and then very quickly erodes the road going down one hillside. Vehicles start sliding off the road into the ditch, the road is eroded enough that small cars can't get over it without bottoming out.

Now during this period of time, my other sis (mom to niece & nephew who own that land) tries to get greedy sis to remove the water line so there can be repair and construction on the road. She offers an easement in the ditch alongside the road as long as the waterline is 36 inches or deeper.Greedy sis not only says NO but tries to get other sis arrested for harassment.

Fast forward to late May of this year: My oncologist inform me that my cancer has metastasized to my liver and that I will probably not live to see Christmas. My Dad and the rest of the family (other that greedy sis) decide the road must be fixed NOW where my caregivers and friends in smaller cars can get in & out and that heavy ambulatory vehicles can get in when need be. Other sis sends a certified letter to greedy sis informing her that the road reconstruction/ improvement is going to happen. If greedy sis doesn't move her water line within 10 days she may not have one to move.

Due to rains and weather conditions, it was late July when my Dad started on the road. He did the hillsides furthermost from the water line first and got them graded, widened & smoothed and rock brought in for the surface and resmoothed. Then he stared on the hillside that was the worst due to the erosion because of the water leaks. While grading the road, the water line was pulled up and out. Some places it was already laying on the surface of the drive from the erosion.

Of course this leads to more cops being called out and more yelling and screaming between all the concerned parties. (I have totally stayed out of it..I got other things to worry about...like dying!) About 10 days go by after the cops say that it is a civil matter and that it seemed like Dad was just doing what the landowners wanted him to. Then comes the summons to court for Dad and a restraining order to keep him from doing anything else to the drive. Well, he wasn't done by any means, he still had some widening to do as well as putting in another culvert at the creek. So the road is really rough right now, greedy sis has her water line just laying in the ditch alongside the roadway and they went to court today.

The judge upheld the restraining order against Dad and told greedy sis's husband that he could work on the road if he wanted to. (Not their property..my niece & nephews) He also told niece and nephew that they would have to file for a restraining order to keep greedy sis's husband from working on their road and told greedy sis that she had to file a separate case to get an easement to put the waterline where she wants it(which is across the road in niece in nephews field) WTF!??!

Soooooo....I'm sick of all of it! I am thinking the whole bunch need to grow up...some are much more at fault than others...

This is my plan: I called a guy that I know that does odd jobs and asked him if he was busy tomorrow. He isn't so I hired him for the day along with a helper for him. I then called and rented a deep trencher that will dig 48 inches deep. At five in the morning he is going to pick me up and we will go borrow a truck and flat bed trailer from another friend. Then we will be at the equipment rental place by seven when it opens to get the trencher. When we get home, the greedy sis and her husband should be gone to work (God, Please don't let them take off work for some reason)

We will start on their property digging the trench with this machine and then lay the pipe that they have laying on top of the ground in the ditch into it.
Then we will get off their property and run a trench at least 36 inches deep alongside the road in the ditch. Into this we will also put the pipe they have just laying on top of the ground. This will mean cutting their water off for a short period of time while we do some elbows and connectors since we aren't going down the ditch the whole way. We will be putting it where the easement that the kids offered them said to put it. After we have reconnected all the pipe we will turn the water back on and check for leaks. Then we will cover up our trenches and clean up any mes we make.

I just Pray that one of them doesn't decide to stay home from work or come home early. I think we can get this done in about 6 hours. They get home about 5:30 from work..we Should be finished by 3....

Worse case scenario...they catch us and call the cops. The cops come and arrest the 3 of us for criminal trespass. The fine per person is Up to $1000 dollars and up to 90 days in jail. This is why I want to do their land part first..if they catch us on the roadway...that is my niece & nephews land..I already have verbal permission from them. But I don't want them to catch us in the act at all. I have warned the guy and his helper what is going on where they would know the potential risks.

Sooooo...I want this over and DONE and all the BS to stop. My niece and nephew have given me permission to get a professional in here to do the widening and the finishing stuff on the drive. I happen to have a couple of frinds in the biz that will do it cheap an quick.

So...this is where I am...ain't it some stuff when I'm terminal and this B.S. is going on and I am putting myself in a position to go to jail just to stop this stupidity...I have tried to talk to all parties & explain that NONE of this is helping me any. I am sick and all this does is upset me because I worry that someone is going to do something stupid and dangerous that can't be undone.
I made the comment 3 years ago that the whole thing made me want to run away from home. It has gotten markedly worse since May and I have gotten to where I Feel like I have cancer finally. The pain is tolerable because I take the pain pills like I should but it is there and I can actually feel the tumors masses in my abdomen when rub my belly.

Anyway...I am jumping into this madness with both feet to try to bring it to an end. I know, I know...,I'm as ignorant as the rest of the group!


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  • DBFBILLY
    Wow.., i'm just coming across this too..i'm soo sorry you have went through this mess...how has it turned out?? you need to take care of yourself..and shame on those who are selfish and acting this way...

    How are you feeling? My husband died a few years ago of heart failure,so i can sympathize with you on health matters...you go through enough medical BS, and you don't need family drama..

    I will say prayers for you on PEACE and WELLNES emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3839 days ago
  • EMACBLUE
    Wow, I just came across this. All I can say is WOW, just wow. Your sister is being so incredibly selfish and bad and just awful... and I hesitate to bash other peoples families but she just needs to GROW UP!
    3840 days ago
  • PENELOPE0831
    This is the first time I've run across your page as well and, wow. Just wow. With all that you;re dealing with regarding your health you're still going out and dealing with the stupid road issue. My goodness. You are an incredibly strong person and an inspiration. I will be checking back on your page often!
    3840 days ago
  • HISBEAUTY4ASHES
    i'm coming across your page for the first time...i dont know what your beliefs are, but i will definitely pray for you, if you dont mind, for healing and peace in your family, and for you to find comfort and rest.
    3841 days ago
  • CJJANISS
    You'll be in my prayers. I'm new "again" to the Done girl team. I had joined a while back and then quit (I wasn't on SP enough.) Any way, wishing you all the best. Carol
    3845 days ago
  • JANEYINMADTOWN
    So did everything work out ok? I hope so...God Bless!
    3845 days ago
  • NANCYGIRLLAX
    You are one amazing woman! I truly hope the doctors are wrong! You are an inspiration to all of a us. But, I tell ya, family can make you smile faster than anyone AND make your life miserable, usually in span of a 5 minutes. Take care!
    3845 days ago
  • LIFE_IS_SO_GOOD
    You are amazing. I read your comment and see that you pulled it off. Your sister really is something ... we all have one member of our family (or more) that we'd like a dna test on.
    All you really need to do is enjoy the days and ignore the sister ... she just doesn't really matter.
    3849 days ago
  • KSW1963
    After your welcome to the group, I came by to check out your page and have to say this is a very interesting family drama! lol. I'm hoping that you get some peace and quiet now and will be able to take care of yourself! Hugs!

    Kathy
    3849 days ago
  • WANT_MYBODYBACK
    Families are like banana splits... some parts are sweet, some are nutty, some are as slippery and shifty. Some parts you like better than others and some seem like they don't even belong. But when done right,that banana split is one of the best things that you could ever think of having. Hope things get better soon so you can enjoy your sundae! BTW... I'm so glad you're not in the clink!!!
    3854 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/24/2010 1:12:26 PM
  • MEGANM_07
    So glad to hear that you got done with today and stayed out of jail! Best of luck to your family problems being solved once and for all.
    Blessings,love & hugs,
    Megan
    3855 days ago
  • PCOH051610
    Well all I can say is thank God you are blessed with a fantastic spirit and sense of humour! Family disputes are horrible and I think every family has had one to some degree! I'm a devout animal lover and have this saying on a magnet " The more people I meet, the more I love my dog".

    Thank you for blessing us all with your blogs! Your courage and wisdom is very inspiring!
    3855 days ago
  • PAMNANGEL
    Glad to hear it. You've certainly earned a nap.
    3855 days ago
  • TANSHAN1
    I'm NOT in jail!!! Yippee!
    We got everything done and never got seen by a soul.
    All the concerned parties are home from work and where ever
    No cops yet! Yeah!
    I'm a tired puppy...going to take a nap now!

    3855 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/24/2010 3:51:22 AM
  • VEEJAY3
    Oh Ramona, Ramona!!! You have me in stitches with the Lion Rescue idea!! It's brilliant. It reminds me of my dad (he passed three years ago). He bought a farm next to some people who had your family's issues, Shannon. They were a cantankerous bunch. And they were up in arms about what my father intended for that land. So he had a sign made that said something like "Future Home of the J--- H----- Hog Farm!" It was a riot.

    Since Ramona is our very best pray-er person, I will rest in her beautiful words to you, but know I'm right there with her, beseeching The Lord for a wonderful day for you, and for peace to descend on the struggle.

    As for your health struggle, I'm so thankful for your amazing example. You are a treasure.
    3855 days ago
  • _RAMONA
    Aww, Shanon! You are not as ignorant as the rest of this group! Aren't families just precious (dripping with sarcasm... I have a family that makes life difficult for the sake of being difficult... lately I've been thinking of running away from home, too)?

    I'm GLAD you are doing what you can to make your own life bearable, and showing people how to be bigger than they they are acting. Could this be some sort of weird misplaced and mis-expressed grief (can't help my own better nature kicking in and offering the benefit of a doubt)?

    I cannot see a judge of any sort ruling against your reasonable solution, and your whole family should get down on their knees in repentance and thank God for YOU and for saving grace through you that saves them all the money and the legal fees it would have cost them to get this over and done with.

    I pray you enjoy your day and the satisfaction of creating peace for yourself.
    I pray that all goes off without a hitch.
    I pray for everyone involved to come to their senses and allow their better nature to prevail.
    I pray if they don't, that God smite them in their tracks (some people only learn the hard way).
    Mostly I'll just pray for you and your journey...

    ...And if it continues to escalate once you have your own needs covered, spend your time thinking about who you can leave your land to that will make life even more interesting for them... a lion rescue group perhaps? A Hari Krishna commune? A nuclear waste disposal company? Just kidding... but wouldn't it be interesting to see how they would deal with that? Some people can't seem to see how good they have it until things get exponentially worse and out of their control. You'd be doing them a favour... really...
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    May today and every day bring to you a ridiculous abundance of whatever you need. May all your concerns, struggles, anxieties and fears fall like ashes as you rise on eagle's wings, SOARING above all that would hinder you along this tremendous adventure of being and becoming all you are created to be. May the grace of God simply "overtake" you moment by moment. May the joy and victory of the risen Lord be yours in a very personal way... may you always be overwhelmed by the grace of God, rather than by the cares of life!

    {{{{{{{{{ HUGS }}}}}}}}}
    Ramona

    P.S. LOVE your feed... I'm exactly that sort of flexible... these days even more so. Ride on, Sister!
    3855 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/23/2010 11:11:21 AM
  • PRECISELEE180
    Oh my gosh, that is so tragic! Families are not supposed to behave that way! I really hope everything works out for you. Let us know how it turns out! You're in my thoughts!
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    3855 days ago
  • MISSROCKABILLY
    I'm so sorry to hear of all the craziness and BS going on. You are right, you definitely don't need to be dealing with that right now. I don't really have any advice (and it's probably too late anyhow), but I could ask N about it if you want.

    Sending you much love!
    3855 days ago
  • MERAINA
    Just loves you girl
    Hugs & prayers!
    3855 days ago
  • MEGANM_07
    Wow, that is some major greed going on,on your sisters part. Sounds a lot like someone in my family. Wont mention name cause I got a few family members on here lol. I do not think you will go to jail. I do not know how the law works where you are though. If there is no restraining order on you and the judge gave you no specific instructions, all should be fine. My prayers go out to you. Best of luck getting things resolved =)
    3855 days ago
  • PAMNANGEL
    I wish I had the magic words to make things right. It's hard dealing with toxic relatives.
    3855 days ago
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