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Working on Balance in a New Routine

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

It's been a busy week here. Busy is the new black, I'm thinking--it's here to stay for a little while.

Maintaining balance was a lot simpler when there were less things to blanace. LOL. Slowly but surely over the course of this past month, I'm finding what works for me and doesn't work for me, where I need to loosen up a little and where I need to tighten the reigns. This weekend I stupidly agreed to two sets of plans, guests both Friday and Saturday night. While I'd planned for Saturday night, I hadn't for Friday. Friends of ours sort of invited themselves over, and rather than say no, I said yes thinking that I was perfectly capable of handling two events in one weekend, as in days of yore. I didn't count on the fact, however, that both sets of guests wound up staying until about 2:00 AM. Obviously, this too is something I could have put a squash on by speaking up, but I chose not to--again believing I could handle it just fine. By Sunday I was exhausted and after an extended afternoon at the gym, I just crashed. This means I didn't get any of the work done I had needed to get done to set my week off on the right foot--and it also meant Dan didn't get any of the household stuff that he was working on finished either.

In the past two weeks, my routines have gotten less robust, and some things that I used to commit to doing regularly I've stopped doing. As my consciousness of these things increased, I started cutting corners with food, eating a little bit more, choosing easy prep meals, planning less well and thus eating too much at dinner. I know from experience that this is how it all starts--little ways of "cutting corners," letting the simple things slip on by, worrying less about whether or not I'm getting enough sleep, whether or not my meals are tip-top, spending more free time completely zoned out. These things lead me to make poor self-care a habit or norm, cause me to feel unsettled and anxious, and allow me to slip into the all-too-familiar pattern of putting EVERYONE else's needs before my own.

Yesterday I snapped out of this. I know the things I need to do in order to put myself in better balance, and I'm going to do them.

For today, that meant making sure I made all my appointments, but also left enough time to get done the things I want to do for ME (like have a decent workout and practice my swimming). It also means that this afternoon I'm going to take some time out to enjoy myself (maybe take a nap or read a book in the sun), and also get some work done and take care of some chores. If anything needs to slip to the back burner or not get done entirely, for today it WON'T be the nap or book!

I hope everyone is having a great week--it's half-way done!

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    wishing you some down time on the weekend ;) i know it is tough when we shake up our routine, but now u are comin into the spot where it too will become second nature and u will slowly be able to eek out time for more time consuming meal prep etc. once upon a time u didnt have time to do half of what u are conquering today, and in 10 yrs you will be conquering more than you are now without batting an eyelash, we are an adaptable species, you've got it goin on girl, keep rockin it!
    3137 days ago
    Good for you realizing before things got too far out of kilter .That is true balance knowing when to say whoa I need me time !
    3137 days ago
    You've been super busy. And you're right, it's hard finding balance with you have 101 other things that need to be done. Sometimes I get so overwhelmed with my to do list that I let all the stuff fall by the wayside. That's not good either and I had to snap out of that. I always make sure I get some time for myself. Even if it's just 15 minutes. Oftentimes we put so much pressure on ourselves to do for others that we stop doing for ourselves. I hope you enjoyed that book AND the nap!
    3137 days ago
    It's much harder with working to juggle things, but you have so much self-awareness that I'm confident that you can do it. You have worked too hard and come too far to let it slide.

    I've been thinking about you and the 365 goals we set last year. I've been toying with the idea of doing the same thing again with slightly different goals.

    3137 days ago
    I know the weekend was tough on you. I am so impressed that you are able to see the whole picture and decided what works for you and do it. You go girl! I have no doubt that everything will fall in to place, once you decide what place you want it.

    Keep taking care of you!!!!!

    Wishing you all the best!
    3137 days ago
    You always seem to do such a great job realizing when things are getting out of whack and coming up with a plan to get things back in balance! Way to go! When our patterns are so ingrained, it's often hard to remember that they are the OLD normal, not the NEW one and get back on track. It sounds like you're continuing to challenge the old tapes and play the new ones-- that's great.

    It certainly does sound like you've been busy and I'm glad that you're taking time for yourself today. Enjoy it:)
    3137 days ago
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