Working on Balance in a New Routine
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
It's been a busy week here. Busy is the new black, I'm thinking--it's here to stay for a little while.
Maintaining balance was a lot simpler when there were less things to blanace. LOL. Slowly but surely over the course of this past month, I'm finding what works for me and doesn't work for me, where I need to loosen up a little and where I need to tighten the reigns. This weekend I stupidly agreed to two sets of plans, guests both Friday and Saturday night. While I'd planned for Saturday night, I hadn't for Friday. Friends of ours sort of invited themselves over, and rather than say no, I said yes thinking that I was perfectly capable of handling two events in one weekend, as in days of yore. I didn't count on the fact, however, that both sets of guests wound up staying until about 2:00 AM. Obviously, this too is something I could have put a squash on by speaking up, but I chose not to--again believing I could handle it just fine. By Sunday I was exhausted and after an extended afternoon at the gym, I just crashed. This means I didn't get any of the work done I had needed to get done to set my week off on the right foot--and it also meant Dan didn't get any of the household stuff that he was working on finished either.
In the past two weeks, my routines have gotten less robust, and some things that I used to commit to doing regularly I've stopped doing. As my consciousness of these things increased, I started cutting corners with food, eating a little bit more, choosing easy prep meals, planning less well and thus eating too much at dinner. I know from experience that this is how it all starts--little ways of "cutting corners," letting the simple things slip on by, worrying less about whether or not I'm getting enough sleep, whether or not my meals are tip-top, spending more free time completely zoned out. These things lead me to make poor self-care a habit or norm, cause me to feel unsettled and anxious, and allow me to slip into the all-too-familiar pattern of putting EVERYONE else's needs before my own.
Yesterday I snapped out of this. I know the things I need to do in order to put myself in better balance, and I'm going to do them.
For today, that meant making sure I made all my appointments, but also left enough time to get done the things I want to do for ME (like have a decent workout and practice my swimming). It also means that this afternoon I'm going to take some time out to enjoy myself (maybe take a nap or read a book in the sun), and also get some work done and take care of some chores. If anything needs to slip to the back burner or not get done entirely, for today it WON'T be the nap or book!
I hope everyone is having a great week--it's half-way done!