Getting personal

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Thank you again to everyone who commented on last night's blog. I think it helped clear my head. Here is what I've decided while I was out taking a walk today.

My boss can't have his cake and eat it too, as the saying goes.

Bad things have happened to him that probably shouldn't have happened to him. I know as well as he does that our management is slippery, deceitful, and lacking in basic management skills and integrity, but it's time for some decisive action, one way or the other. He needs to either fire a compelling shot across their bow - (something they are not likely to forget soon, like a formal grievance) -- or he should accept the situation as it is and make the best of it for his own sake, and that of his staff, including but not limited to me. Right now he complains to me on a daily basis, but he never does anything about it. I have to listen to him day after day, powerless to stop what I think of as an impending train wreck.

Since I am predisposed by nature to take action to solve my problems, it's especially frustrating to me to watch him get mistreated and have to spend my precious time reviewing the same list of woes week in and week out. It's enough already! It just makes me want to go and give one of those self-important people a piece of my mind, but I know that I can't do this on his behalf, and that it won't solve anything.

It's also not fair to me that he reacts to his situation by bossing me around, keeping me from working up to my full potential, and forbidding me from interacting with others in the office. That has to stop.

So I plan to tell him, gently but firmly, that he has a decision to make. He either has to file a credible grievance, if only to shock those people into their senses, or he has to shut up and accept the changes. I can't live with the constant negativity. I want to just go along, get along, and do some good work. He knows about my family situation, so he should be able to understand that I am under a lot of stress, and that I don't have the energy to deal with his problems and mine at this time.

If he can't make a decision, then he needs professional help, and if he can't deal with that, he may not have me to boss around much longer.

What do you think?

PS. I have been writing about a lot of personal stuff, and even though my Sparkname provides me some anonymity, I think I am going to change it again to decrease the chance that someone could link me with these blogs , so look for an imminent change.
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  • no profile photo CD2112467
    I think this is the way to go. That is an awesome idea. You are on tough and smart cookie!
    3803 days ago
    You are doing the right thing. Speaking up in the right spirit can go a long way to helping the situation. I hope it is the thing he needs to move him in a better direction. I will be thinking about you and sending good thoughts your way. emoticon
    3804 days ago
    I've helped solve many of my problems on a good, long walk! You've got a such a good head on your shoulders, I have no doubt this is a good path for you to take!

    And you'll always be Janet to me, though the new name is really appealing!

    3805 days ago
  • BOBBYD31
    good for you! it is a hard place to be in but i think your headed in the right direction. good for you!
    3805 days ago
    When your supervisor finishes one of his complaining jags, have you ever asked him point blank: What are you going to do about it? If he doesn't have an answer, then I'd feel free to lay out possible courses of action.

    You have my sympathy - what a highly stressful and
    unprofessional situation to have to deal with!
    3805 days ago
    Janet - You are a wise woman, and if your boss is going to vent to you - he should also be prepared to listen to your advice - or not dump his loads on you. You are right it's just NOT FAIR. I will try to commit your new name to memory.
    Just remember - we are here for you to vent to - don't resort to unhealthy practices - eating or not exercising - take care of yourself.
    3805 days ago
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