I had a major life event this weekend...

Monday, August 09, 2010

I think I'm still in shock, my only child left home for supposedly the last time this weekend.
She's 23, working full time, and it was time for her to leave the nest and stretch her wings.
I am used to her absence, she hasn't been home much in the past few years but her room was there, intact. She's moving it out. I got ferklumpt when her dresser went out the door.
I remember buying that dresser used for $35, painting it and making a pad for the top to use as her changing table. Her dad painted forget-me-nots on and her changing pad was blue flannel with a fluffy cloud print. The changing pad is long gone and now the dresser is in her first grown-up apartment.

I'm happy for her, I'm celebrating this milestone in both our lives, but sometimes I just get a lump in my throat and a tear in my eye.
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  • no profile photo CD6687446
    No doubt you had a lot of tears in your eyes as you wrote this. But isn't love wonderful? emoticon
    3751 days ago
    Oh, by the way, I forgot to tell you that they each returned home after leaving the first the second time that they each left, I, my husband, and the boys(young adults) were READY! Things are a bit different when they leave and come back,their attitudes change because they ARE adults. emoticon
    3760 days ago
    That "empty nester" feeling sneaks up on us even tho we think we are prepared for it. We are so happy for them, but yet we do feel a void. But know that even though they are on their own, they always will need mom and dads advice from time to time. I even found that my children being age 30 and 32, they still call for health advice from me, and their dad for financial advice. We still are parents no matter what our age is. The nice thing about children getting older, you get an appreciation of them being an adult...talking one on one as an adult, not a child anymore. You are there for support and advice in this time of their lives, not into child rearing anymore. emoticon on being an empty nester! Another step in our life...completed! emoticon
    3760 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/10/2010 9:10:00 PM
    I never worried about being an empty three kids are pretty tight and I am close to each one, so I knew that once they moved out that I would still see them all the time. My oldest child, a daughter, ended up in the Peace Corps in Tonga and that was the hardest because there was no cell phone use and very limited computer use and she was gone for 2 1/2 years...I remember crying for the first week because I was so worried about her. But, she found the love of her life in Tonga and in 2001 they were married and moved in with use for over a year, which was great because I got to really know my wonderful SIL. One son lives a block away with his family and my youngest son lives 5 hours away with his family. Now, I have a houseful of grandkids so I guess I have never experienced being an empty nester!!!
    3760 days ago
    WOW that is major. Is she still in town here or did she actually move away. You have to come up with something great to do with the room so it will not continue to remind you. You know like my M&M room, but of course, not M&M's, just make it your happy place, and remember, as close as you are to your daughter, you will still see her often.
    3760 days ago
    Welcome to the empty nest... gone from our homes, but never from our hearts. Best thing we can do for them is to take good care of ourselves so when they call (and they will), we will be there! emoticon

    3761 days ago
    I know Susan, I am crying with you! I feel your pain! It is awful to go through this part of life! My daughter did this several years back, and I cried for quite sometime! Felt like she was making a bad choice, and she was back in two years and is staying next door now.

    Now my son is in his 20's! I keep looking for it to happen any day, but so far so good! He seems content to just stay at home. He seems in no hurry! He has learned from his sister's costly mistakes and seems to have more common sense! He has dated some girls, but always seems to get hurt in the end! I tell him one day there will be a special wife for him!

    I guess we just have to let go completely one day and that is something that really hurts! Do we ever let go completely?

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    3761 days ago
    I remember when my son was home, sometimes I would think how nice it would be when he moved out. When he surprised us and said he was getting his first apartment, I wasn't as happy as I thought I'd be. For the first two weeks, I would get teary when he'd come over and then he'd leave to go to his new home. He was my baby (his sister is older and had already moved out) and my last child was leaving the was an adjustment.

    Funny thing was, I adjusted pretty quickly. Three years later, he moved back home for a short time to save for a home...NO tears the second time he moved out! I was so happy to have him move...after being on his own, it was hard for him AND me to live together again...How things change!

    My kids are out of the house...oh yeah! And, the rooms have been redecorated and the happy memories of their growing years live in my heart!
    3761 days ago
  • no profile photo CD5080021
    LOL, I must be a terrible mother. When our daughter moved out, we tore out the carpet, repainted her bedroom and painted it a whole different color. When she lived here, she was into pink. The room is now burnt orange. I put an antique bed, and desk in it. I made it my computer room.

    But there again, she only moved 1 block down the street. It's like her being here, just a little bit farther down, and the mess went with her. LOL
    3761 days ago
  • no profile photo CD6484093
    Hi Susan,

    I've been trying to add a comment for over a half-hour. Have you been having issues with SP today? Frustrating.

    Anyway -- I feel your pain. My oldest "baby" moved out 3 years ago and married 2 years ago. After the initial emotions, you'll grow used to the "new normal." I worried about being an empty nester, but am finding that I enjoy it. That being said, there are times when I think of either of my boys or remember something silly and I turn to mush and get teary-eyed and/or cry. I think it's just one of the things about motherhood. They never stop being our kids and we never stop worrying and mothering. . . .
    3761 days ago
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