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Veganism at Applebee's is a challenge

Saturday, July 31, 2010

I was invited to dinner with my friend to meet her parents. We were going to visit one of my favorite Thai restaurants. I already knew what I was going to order: Green Curry with Vegetables and Tofu, mild, over brown rice. Instead, we ended up going to the local Applebee's. Now I used to work at an Applebee's when I was 16. Back then I was an omnivore, at veg and non-veg foods, and didn't worry about weight gain or loss. Today I was faced with two challenges: making low-fat, low-calorie choices AND finding something, anything!, that was vegan. I ended up making good dinner choices but succumbed to the Chocolate Meltdown. What an appropriate name. It weighs in at 720 calories so, luckily, I shared it with two other people. Whew. Still, I feel "bad" about eating cheese, margarine, sour cream, ice cream, and cake. While there is nothing wrong with vegetarianism, I am ethically vegan. How do I reconcile this divide between action and ethics?
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    emoticon I agree with them!
    2694 days ago
    Thank you both for your considerate comments. It was a huge challenge to accept their last-minute change. I may have had a better game plan in that case. Pros: I drank lots of water, had a small baked potato (lots of iron and vitamin C!), and ordered a portobella sandwich without the chicken or bun. The cons were the veggie patch pizza appetizer and cake/ ice cream. I will not be visiting Applebee's in the future and will plan in advance for wherever I go in the future. emoticon
    2883 days ago
    I think there is also a cultural component to this dilemma. In this instance, it was important to accept the invitation to dinner and to behave politely this evening. Sometimes it's ok to indulge, to sacrifice our principles for the sake of relationships with other people. You sacrificed something that was important to you so your friend could have a nice evening with loved ones. I don't think you need to feel -too- guilty about that.
    2883 days ago
    It is really hard to eat out when you are watching your weight, even harder when you are also vegan! I was vegan for two years and faced this issue many times. I was "that girl" who asked a million questions and had a huge list of substitutions to make. In both situations you are trying to do right by yourself. I personally think that every mistake is a part of the learning process. Also, sometimes you have to eat that big fatty chocolate thing, feel crappy about it the next day, so that you don't do it too often. The good part is you don't eat that all the time and you are making an effort (huge effort) to eat humane foods. I learned long ago to say, I'm down to go out to eat but I can't go to Applebee's. They are just NOT veg/vegan friendly! If everyone insists on going there I would say "I'll sit with you, but I don't want to eat that food." If they are true friends they'll try to find a place that you all want to eat.

    Eating out is hard as a Vegan, unless you live in a big city in Cali. Then there are so many choices it is like Vegan heaven! emoticon
    2883 days ago
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