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I'm On a Kick..

Monday, July 26, 2010

I lately find myself on a self-imposed "personal responsibility" kick. I just read this quote, from an unknown sourse and it resonated:

"People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who really make it in this world are the ones who get up and look for the circumstances they want and if they can’t find them, they make them."

Coupled with another quote I read last week that again resonated, I realize that I am either trying to tell myself or someone else that it's about doing for yourself. You cannot blame everyone or everything else for your situation in life. Your situation in life is yours alone, only you can change it.

Now, if I'm trying to tell someone else this, I have no idea who the target of my message might be, and truthfully, I don't think I'm trying to tell anyone else this. That leaves myself, and the only reason that seems weird is because I already know this. But, it seems I need a reminder. I seem to have "fallen off" the horse, so to speak..I haven't been exercising, I have been eating horribly, and I can't seem to figure out why.

It's easy to blame the crazy summer schedule, going to Cub Scout camp for a week a couple of weeks ago, the insane heat that has gripped us for the past month or so, draining all ambition.. But life is constantly happening, and if not one or all of these things, it would certainly be something else..and to allow myself to blame these things, or anything else, is to not take personal responsibility for my life.

So I am publicly reminding myself to quit looking for excuses and just start doing. To return to my own favorite mantra of "baby steps." To remember why I am on this journey: to see as many tomorrows as possible. And so, it is time for me to make the cirucumstances right for early morning workouts, well planned, smart eating, and clean living. Step one, I believe, has just been taken..thanks for listening..
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    Ya know, Tina... I read this when you first wrote it, and I didn't respond then because it hit me somewhere deep inside in some sort of new way. Perhaps you just had to put it out here for me to read, lol.

    I'm really struggling with this one because, like you, I KNOW this... it is part of the very core of my being and belief system. Yet it's funny how it rubs right now... because at the negative end of the continuum it could smack of perfectionism, arrogance, a lack of compassion and smugness... all things I had to battle out of my younger (and not so long ago) self. And then there's my new belief and understanding (perhaps even wisdom) that reminds me that not all circumstances, walls and obstacles are meant to be conquered... some things are best left behind via a very wide detour... and that can take time... and my body just cannot always be at the top of the list in every way I need it to be to get this done. If this means I still don't really 'get it' well, so be it. I trust the next lesson is just around the corner.

    Perhaps you and I are being challenged to judge ourselves and our efforts (or lack thereof) more fairly and compassionately. I don't feel as though I'm being irresponsible in my life (and I just can't see that in you, either), yet I know anyone examining the details in any given moment right now would have evidence on the surface of it all to judge me lazy, and ineffective, and irresponsible.

    One thing I am sure of, it's a good thing we are asking the questions and looking for an authentic and balanced response to our lives and the elements within them which are beyond our control. I also like to believe that my life lately having a seemingly inordinate amount of 'beyond my control' is a sign that I've traded a life which is regulated, safe and selfish for one that is much more open to trusting God's plan for me.


    ss, my dear friend, may today and every day bring to you a ridiculous abundance of whatever you need. May all your concerns, struggles, anxieties and fears fall like ashes as you rise on eagle's wings, SOARING above all that would hinder you along this tremendous adventure of being and becoming all you are created to be. May the grace of God simply "overtake" you moment by moment. May the joy and victory of the risen Lord be yours in a very personal way... may you always be overwhelmed by the grace of God, rather than by the cares of life!

    {{{{{{{{{ HUGS }}}}}}}}}

    P.S. I have your aunt in my prayers.
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    Comment edited on: 8/16/2010 1:17:31 AM
    You know I'm with you on this one! And summer is crazy for me, but I have friends who exercise and that's the only time I do. I love your reflection on the reflections, and the reminder that no matter what, it's up to us.

    3782 days ago
    Baby steps... emoticon You can get back on track. Life happens and sometimes our habits fall by the wayside. You can do it though!

    I feel ya on the heat, but down here we expect it and are "used to it" (in theory!).
    3782 days ago
    As they say 'Life is what you make it', sometimes we have trouble making that schedule to work for us, LOL.
    3783 days ago
    Thanks for sharing! We're always here to listen! Have a great Monday!
    3784 days ago
    I really liked your post. I, too, have been struggling with exercising in this insane heat. In fact, I'd been using it as an excuse to stay indoors. Today's Monday, the beginning of a new week. This'll be my Day 1 of exercising without excuses again. Thanks!
    3784 days ago
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