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Witnessing sister's poor health...inspired me to try harder

Saturday, July 24, 2010

Hello everyone....I just got back from an overnight sleepover at my sister's house.
Every year my 7 sisters and I get together for an overnight visit. We start on Friday night with dinner and conversation followed by a movie and exchanging news, swapping pictures, etc. Saturday morning we get up to breakfast and then go shopping together for the rest of the day. This year was an eye opening experience for me. I watched one of my sister's who is about 8 year's older than me sit and cough and wheeze constantly. She had gained probably 50 pounds in the last year and was already overweight. She told me she was on 19 medications including some for depression. Friday night some of us took a walk after dinner. She could not tolerate it so she could not join us. Today at the mall she would get short of breath and have to sit down on a bench. When she saw clothing she was interested in she would walk away and not let anyone see her when she tried it on. From another sister who lives close to her, I learned she is unable to care for her yard and the grass and weeds are growing and the inside of the house which was built about 7 years go is in much need of housekeeping. My heart is breaking for her. I know her blood pressure is sky high and she suffers from sleep apnea. I would not be surprised if she had a heart attack, stroke or diabetes. My sisters are planning to get together within the next week or two and try to get her house and yard back in shape for her. I sat and watched her the last couple of days and felt even more inspired to work harder to get myself into a better shape. She commented to me that she noticed how much I had lost and how much better shape I was in. She told me she would like to lose weight also. I hope in some way I can show her it can be done and maybe inspire her to try to do the same. I do not want to lose her but I know it has to be her decision to lose. I can only try to change myself and this has made me want it even more.
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    It's really hard to see someone you love like that. I agree, that is great that all of you get together once a year. I wish you luck with helping your sister. It's sound like you could be a huge impact on her health.
    2684 days ago
    oh my that can be so upsetting, are you able to call and talk to her, maybe you can be her coach helping her gain her control back, she said she would like to lose weight and this is a way that will help you and her, if you want any exercises that she would be able to start out with just let me know I would gladly find them and send them to you, you are doing great .
    2844 days ago
    I hope you're able to help your sister help herself
    2848 days ago
    Hope your sister can get out of the cycle of weight gain and improve her health.
    2853 days ago
    It is so sad when those we love reach the point your sister has. Keep encouraging her to turn to healthy foods. Bring over a veggie tray or fruit next time you visit. By your example, she can see that making smart choices has lasting benefits.
    2853 days ago
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    How sad- take care of youreslf, my friend.
    Maybe she will follow you on the path to better health.
    2853 days ago
    I bet this had to be heartbreaking for you. I am in a similar situation with my mother. Knowing the genetics plays an important role in how are bodies work I am really trying to keep mine strong and lose the weight. My mom has horrible knees and can hardly walk. She also has a hard time doing basics. Although I may, due to genetics, wind up with knee problems, but I want to put that off as long as possible.

    All you can do is encourage your sister and show her that it can be done. Depression plays in big role in things not getting done around the house. I think that helping her out when the family can will be a big help so that she may be able to get some relief from the overwhelming feeling of too many things needing to be done.

    Best wishes and luck to you and your family in this situation.

    2857 days ago
    Oh that's so sad. It's a good thing though that you all get together every year so you can keep tabs on one another and help each other. Sounds like she really needs an intervention but at least she has hope and desire to change her health. I'm certain that you were a big inspiration to her. Good luck.
    2857 days ago
  • FITKAT2010
    The only thing you can do for others, as you stated above, is to be a good example.

    Unless your sisters want to continue doing her yard and cleaning the inside of her house, they may want to NOT do that. Letting things be might be the motivation your sister needs in order to do something for herself.
    2858 days ago
    Hope you can be an inspiration for her.
    2859 days ago
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