A friend took advantage . . . what would you have done?
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
This past Sunday my youngest son played with his Tango group for the first time in the Chicago area. This was the first time I got to hear the group live and was happy to share the experience with my friends. Three of my girlfriends went with me - they didn't know each other - just me. It was held at a greek restaurant on the north side of the city. There was a cover charge of $15 and since it was at a restaurant I told my friends that I was planning to have dinner there before the music started. So we made plans to get to the restaurant well before for dinner - the plus side of this was to get a really nice table to sit at to enjoy the music and watch the dancers. We had a nice dinner and enjoyed the music. Plus there were lots of tango dancers that were just incredible! When the band played their last song, we got our tab for the evening and everyone pulled out their wallets - except for one gal. She said to me "I didn't bring enough money, pay for me and I'll pay you back tomorrow." I said I didn't know if I brought enough to cover not only my part of the bill as well as her part. She said I could borrow the money from another of my friends and when she paid me back - then I could pay my friend back! I immediately said absolutely not! I'd planned ahead for myself and was not going to do that! I did have enough (barely) to cover not only my portion, but also her part. But . . .
I was dumbfounded! I didn't want to embarrass her, but I also didn't want to shell out for her part of the tab. The four of us drove together and I would have been happy to stop at a bank or store for her to get the money, but she never said a word until the bill arrived. What would you have said to her when she asked for the money?
Plus she said that she'd pay me back the next day & didn't. So this morning I called her and asked when she intended to pay me back. She said she would, but didn't volunteer to bring it over. So I flat out told her I do not do well with lending money - and that I wanted to be paid back this morning. She was upset, but did drop it off. Now she's acting offended and that ticks me off!
I simply could not believe she did this and wondered what others would do in my place.