Do to it or not to do it?

Friday, July 16, 2010

Day 17 of my journey

I have been pondering something for the last little while. Something my Doctor talked to me about on my last monthly visit.

What are you doing about your weight?

I asked her to give me until September to think about it. seems like Deja vue!

2 years ago to be exact. After trying to loose weight it seems like a lifetime - she suggested that I needed to do something about my weight at 300 lbs she sent me to see a weigth specialist and I was put on a liquid diet for 3 months - I lost 70 pounds was feeling great, amazing, beautiful, light and was on top of the world and then... Life happened... Hubby got sick, very depressed and his son moved out as he was using drugs on a daily basis - I was trying to keep everybody's morale up I did it again forgot all about myself and started thinking and taking care of everyone else but me and then it startedvhappening again - those darn pants started shrinking in the wash! And then next thing I knew they most of been someone else as they were not mine for sure as they were not going up my legs!

So here I am 2 years latervat that same impasse before the saw ultimatum from my Doctors I need to do something, oh and in case you were wondering about the weight - I put if all back!

So know after being on vacation and having no self control I keep wondering what is a girl to so? Liquid diet again or weight loss surgery - that is the question my Doctor has asked me to answer!
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  • no profile photo CD3011801
    Weight loss surgery is not for everyone and it is not a quick fix.I would give a serious try to spark.Alot of people who have surgery gain the weight back.You will still need to learn how to deal with your emotions rather than eating.I would try it this way first,Whatever you decide we are here for you.Lisa
    3923 days ago
    Hi Sweetie, long time no huddle. So I thought I drop in to say hello. Glad I did. Reading this blog reminds me how much we are alike. I usually put my self last as well. I am an emotional/mindless eater (you may be too?). Still I can't make the decision for you (liquid diet/surgery) but I can tell you what I think. I feel there must be a third option. You sound sad almost beating down. If I am right maybe that is what cause the weight gain and stopping you from losing weight. Maybe some professional counseling might help. During this counseling you could see a nutritionist/dietitian and continue exercising. And of course stay with sparkpeople and me for added support. I personally not comfortable with a doctor who suggests rapid weight loss. However I don't know the whole situation and of course I am not a doctor...yet there are other doctors out there...get a second opinion on what your options are. I wish you all the best!

    Anne Sylvia

    I will not leave you.
    3939 days ago
    I can't do either one of I continue to fight to stay food sober....staying within my calorie range and adding some meaningful movement to my day. Let's do it together! emoticon
    3942 days ago
    You're getting a little bit of everything here!

    I would suggest Spark with any educational support/kick-start plans coming from a nutritionist/dietitian (not sure the difference personally). I have been diabetic for a couple of years now and until last Friday, no one who really knew what they were talking about sat down with me to tell me what my goals should be or what I needed to pay attention to to get there. Let me tell you, it's only been one week, but I've already proven I can control my diabetes with diet (not even intentional exercise yet due to schedule issues - I am working on that).

    It's amazing what a little bit of knowledge and motivation to not be on meds the rest of my life or end up disabled can do! One of my new mantras has been: Don't let life pass you by; get involved! This is how I'm finally getting involved in my health.

    Hope it helps you while you are trying to make your decision!
    3946 days ago
  • no profile photo CD4363972
    I also support the 3rd option - give Spark a chance. Life is going to happen no matter what you do. We all need to learn to deal with it. My weight was over 400 when I started here. It will work if you stick to it but it is more realistic than a liquid diet. Even surgical loss won't last if you can't stick to a program after you have it. My SIL and her daughter have both put their weight back on post-surgery.

    Anyway, so much for my 2 cents. I wish you success no matter what you choose.
    3953 days ago
    Hi I'm by no means an expert at either but I would go with the liquid plan.. Either one that you pick, you need to find the underlying reasons for what you are doing to yourself. I saw Al Roker on NBC Today show weatherman. He had the surgery, and said that it is not a Cure-all. It's a journey like anything else. He's on Twitter and is wonderful to follow.
    I hope you make the best decision for YOU...
    3953 days ago
    Gosh, I'm so glad you posted this blog! From what I've read, you've gotten some really good advice here. My question to you is this "Is your doctor setting a specific timeframe for you to lose weight to a healthy level?" I'm just wondering about that. Gosh, while I really can't provide input into either one of the 2 options but personally, I don't like either, just me. Is it possible for you to "team up" with a Spark Buddy whose weight loss goals might be the same as yours? Dunno. Sending you a big hug for support - YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!
    3953 days ago
    Okay, this is a bit of my soap box .. so bear with me.

    What type of a liquid diet? Is it Herbalife? Some people have had alot of success with it in the past but I do not suggest it. Why? Because I strongly believe that once they stop, they most likely are going to gain some of it back. I don't know about you but I want to lose the weight for once and for all.

    There are many weight loss surgeries. What ones are you looking at? Do keep in mind that with the surgeries, you are not guaranteed to lose weight or to even keep it off.

    I think both of these ways are great to get the weight off but keep in mind a few things.
    1) You may have saggy skin because you lost too fast.
    2) You might have to give yourself shots for the rest of your life if you have surgery.
    3) You will still have to learn how to eat right and learn to love to exercise.
    4) Surgery is irreversible so you are stuck with all the side effects.

    My aunt just had one of the weight loss surgeries.. she is a great inspiration for me! Unfortunately, she struggles with eating right, learning to love her fruits/veggies, and enjoying exercises.

    My suggestion? (Yup, I am no doctor.) Commit to SP for one year. Learn how to balance your foods, how to enjoy exercise, and how to handle the stress. These are all things we all have to learn in this journey. If you want to speed up your weight loss, than have a surgery.

    Either way, I will support you. It will be no easy feat but I know you will succeed!
    3953 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/16/2010 12:49:45 PM
    I agree the weight loss surgery is not the answer! I know 2 people who have had the surgery and either gain the weight back or had health problems because of it! The liquid diet seems extreme! Maybe with a nutritionist's help and the doctor's visits you could find a realistic food plan that will work for you!! You also need to move- walk, swim, dance whatever by move! You do not have to make big changes but do make some changes! You are important! I know the problems with the step-son are hard! But if you do not take care of you health and he does need your help you may not be there to help! And for the rest of your family they need to help you! I am a giver and I know how you make everyone but yourself a priority! How about making you your first priority and the rest will fall into place!! Have a wonderful weekend!!!!!!!!!!! Hang in there!!

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    3953 days ago
    If it were me I would choose the liquid diet..not surgery. It worked in the past for you and you know you can follow it. It would be a great kickstart to a healthy lifestyle! Keep us posted on your decision.
    3953 days ago
    Personally, I would not have the surgery, there are too many side effects to it. So try the liquid diet again, and start a good exercise program. emoticon , and good luck with whatever you decide. We will be here for you!! emoticon
    3953 days ago
    I agree with what has been said day at a time along with a nutritionist who would give you a sensible plan to follow...may I suggest doing alot of research before deciding upon the surgery? Whatever you decide will be what is good for you!

    Michelle :))
    3953 days ago
  • WHEREIS170
    If I had a choice, if it were me I would do the liquid diet again and then make a deal with your doctor to do weigh in's on a biweekly thing. Surgery is not the answer. Even if you had the surgery, who's to say the bad habits won't come back once you recoupe a new style of eating. The surgery pros and cons might scare you into staying on track, but once you have that procedure done, there will not be other options. It is my opinion that you need to regularly find some way of destressing yourself so you don't fall back. We all have reasons why we do things and as moms/wives we tend to put ourselves on the back burner. You just have to try harder to stay on track, you have to look back and see how you felt at 300 lbs and how you felt at the lessor weight. Sounds like you are giving up and that is not the Sunshine I have come to know. So, hey, here is a kick in the butt that you wanted and get off that darn couch and start keeping a journal at home so that you can pull out it out instead on going on the computer. Then, it will be in your face, in your handwriting and you can update SP later. I know you will make the best choice, It's up to you Kiddo! Remember:
    "Your the best thing since sliced bread". lol :)
    3953 days ago
  • TEDYBEAR2838
    Sensible weight loss is the ultimate goal. But your Doctor might know best. It did work for you before. I personally, dont' think I could do the liquid thing, but you have done it so you know you can. Just take it one day at a time and get back to a healthy weight. Your health is a valuable commodity!

    3953 days ago
    Sometimes when I'm stressed, I can't hear the still small voice. But, my question for you is, what is the still small voice in your head saying to do? I'm not talking fairies or anything like that. I'm just talking about your conscience. God. However, you want to look at it. What does your instinct or gut say about it? I try to listen to my gut feeling. It's when I don't trust that still small voice, that I usually make a wrong decision. It might take some quiet time alone, along with some sounding it out with your loved ones. And prayer. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3953 days ago
  • no profile photo CD5959732
    This is only an opinion, but weight loss surgery is not the answer. The life issues that cause the eating are still going to be there. I have seen so many people use the surgery and then put the weight back on, when life happens again. A liquid diet might give you the kick start that you need to get going but I would also consult with a nutritionist when you start reintroducing food. These are only my thoughts and I hope they help a little. Best wishes for your success!
    3953 days ago
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