Sad about Best Friend
Thursday, July 15, 2010
My dearest friend has so many wonderful talents, is a terrific teacher and met the love of her life about 8 years ago. Both she and her dearest were older and had been separated for years from their spouses. They found such a spark of love in each other that it was glorious to be around them. After a couple of years when they had divorced their spouses, they made a private life-long commitment to each other. A couple year ago he was diagnosed with cancer, which spread much more rapidly than was expected. As his health declined, he insisted on a marriage ceremony which was performed by a judge in her house with the groom in a hospital bed. He was gone within a few months. The last two years she has seemed strong and shared her sense of his closeness to her with us. Her oldest daughter married a charming and wonderful man who brought the whole family closer together. What none of us realized is that she wasn't grieving and now it has come crashing down on her. She has seen a doctor is is taking meds which haven't kicked in yet. I wish there was something I could do, but I know all I can do is be there for her. It has brought back some painful memories of my early days of depression.