feeling down....

Saturday, July 10, 2010

In Feb. me and my mom had a falling out....she said somethings to me that I'm just not ready to forgive and forget...well yesterday was my birthday...my mom sent me an email (of all things) wishing me a happy birthday...I received a phone call from my aunt, her sister, saying she had a cookout out yesterday...on my birthday...the heartbreak to this story is she didn't even invite me and I live 5 minutes from her...She had family from an hour away and even 20 minutes away there...but she didnt invite me or my kids...I talked to my other aunt,her other sister, right after I found out and she justified not inviting me cause she knew I wouldn't go..rather or not I would go is not the issue...my own mama didn't ask me to go to let me say "nah im not going"...am I wrong in feeling like this???? This has really hurt me....
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    My mom became one of God's stars in heaven Easter of last year. To say moms and their daughters have tempestuous relationships is an understatement.

    Forgiving her is more for your benefit .. not hers. Just my suggestion .. show up at her doorstep and make the first move. Try to get the ball rolling again. Honey, once she is gone there is truly no getting it back. I cannot say why moms say the things they do .. a lot of it is fear .. but most do come from the heart.

    Peace and blessings! May it all work out for you both. emoticon
    4039 days ago
    My mother was killed in a car accident 1in 1989. I learned that life is short and unpredictable and despite the inevitable misunderstandings within a family, nobody in the world loves you like your mom. You already know this because you have kids. It is unfortunate that your mother said something that you are not ready to forgive and forget, but she did send an email for your birthday. Maybe this was her attempt to start the healing process (or not). Feelings are not right or wrong, they are just feelings. However, it is within your power to decide what to do about them. Maybe you can't yet forget what was said but are you still dwelling on it? Your aunt may feel she had to choose between her sister and her niece and maybe she didn't make the perfect choice. It is okay to be hurt and angry about this, but honestly ask yourself what part are you playing to keep this going. Also consider how your world would change if you lost your mother suddenly and you did not have another opportunity to tell her that you love her. Best wishes, be well, and seize the day.
    4039 days ago
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