#357: Words III

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Yesterday MOMMA_LITTLE surprised and honored me with her complimentary blog. I was and am humbled by her praise. If kind words were filled with calories I would be 10 pounds heavier now. I am thankful she and others value the friendships we have formed here and I am thankful, too, for the many readers who responded to her entry and for those who asked to connect as friends.

As I basked today in the afterglow of her uplifting comments, I also recalled a saying from childhood that you are probably familiar with:

"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me."

Did you ever say that when someone said something hurtful to you?

I don't know about you but I never did agree with that little ditty. The truth is that words can hurt terribly. They can hurt so much that we replay them in our minds over and over for decades, sometimes for a lifetime.

That seems so sad since there are so many chances throughout our lives to offer words of positive encouragement that lift the spirits of others. Why don't we take more advantage of these opportunities?

You may be familiar with another old saying: "If you can't say something nice about someone then don't say anything at all."

When we are young and often as we age we are the target of many unforgettable put downs and teasing remarks from other children, our siblings and sometimes from insensitive parents, co-workers and other adults. These words are often demeaning and cruel. They tear at our hearts and rip apart our souls.

So, let's vow to change the world now that we are adults. Let's teach our children and co-workers and friends and family that praise is much better than criticism, that we truly can catch more flies with honey.

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    There is such tremendous power in words; thanks for the reminder to make our words uplifting and encouraging.
    3941 days ago
    Words to live by my friend, as always. Words can and do hurt you. I am so guilty of this just today towards my own son on the phone. He's 19, strong-willed and strong-minded and well, he's just not my baby anymore. Something happened earlier and I got really upset with him and said some not so nice things. Since I am still so very mad at him. I will say this here and now... Josh, I am sorry. I love you. I always will and I don't mean to hurt you in any way, shape or form. I am so sorry baby.
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    Lou I'm sorry to do this on your blog.
    3942 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/24/2010 6:58:50 PM
    When I was young I was feed that saying about sticks and stones, I agree with you and The Bible.

    Proverbs 16:24
    Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.

    Proverbs 18:8
    The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly.

    Proverbs 21:23
    Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.

    3942 days ago
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    emoticon Beautiful blog.
    3942 days ago
    We are taught that a kind word turns away wrath. It is SO natural sometimes for unkind words to jump out of our mouths, out of our hearts. This is something I'm continually aware of, Lou. Thank you for addressing it and reminding me to be held just as accountable for my every word as I am for my every calorie.
    3943 days ago
    I have spent years getting over words that hurt. I try not to hurt with words but old habits die hard. We reap what we sow. Kindness grows around you my friend.
    3943 days ago
    Good "Words" of advice Lou! I hope that we all can be better models for future generations to be more caring and such.

    Something to put into action!!!

    3943 days ago
    Lou, you are a priceless friend, and I treasure the day I met you on SparkPeople! "Nuff said," as they say in TX! Thank you for this blog, as it made me feel like a puffer fish! emoticon (I know that is not a puffer fish)

    You know, I can't remember all the kind words said to me growing up. I know they were there! But I can remember the mean, unkind things verbatim! Isn't that amazing!

    You are so right. I want to remember this blog before I go spouting off at someone! Usually, I don't even know what I'm talking to when I do because nearly every time, I've jumped to the wrong conclusion!

    Love you, Brother Lou! emoticon
    3943 days ago
  • 0309COOKIE
    Well, of course I had to go read the blog and I have to say I agreed with every word of it. I love reading your blogs. They are always very inspirational and thought provoking. As is today's.
    3943 days ago
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