Where do I start........

Sunday, June 06, 2010

It has been a very hard two weeks. We sold my deceased In Laws house and have to have it cleaned out by the 21st. So the last couple of weeks I have been over there going through desks and paper and dishes......etc. It has been a real chore and I am so sore and tired. My hands don't want to move the way they should since the RA is pretty bad and they hurt. Most of it is done, but my sister in law is useless. All she does is sit in the sun and order people around. She didn't lift a finger to help pack anything up. And she so controlling. She is forcing things on my Step daughter without even asking me if I want any of it. She gave her a candy dish that is about 100 years old and didn't even look at me as far asking me if I wanted it. Mike is really upset with her about these things also. He said that she is about as useful as "tits on a boar".....sorry if that offends anyone, but that sums it up very nicely.

My Step-daughter and I have been planning their wedding for Sept 2. Now Julie (my step daughter) is a very influential young lady and puts way to into some of the things that people tell her. We have planned this wedding and have a spot to rent close by. Since this garage sale and her spending time with my SIL, the plans have now changed to where the date is different and it will take place at my SIL house that is 1.5 hours away from where most of the people live. Besides that, if it is held at her house, SHE will be in charge, not Julies mom or me. My SIL won't be able to sit by and let us be the "Moms". Mike is really upset about this also. He knows how his SIL is and knows that it just won't work. Julie thinks that her aunt is now her best friend and she will do anything to keep that relationship going. She doesn't realize that this isn't a good relationship and we will have to try to talk with her about it without making Julie feel like she is doing something wrong. Very touchy situation.

But......I got to see Brayden (my new grandbaby) alot over the last couple of weeks. He was really fussy yesterday, but I was able to take him in my arms and just rock back and forth, and he went right to sleep. That happened TWO times. It felt so good to hold that baby and put him to sleep. He is such a cutie. I need to post some new pics soon. I was so busy, I didn't take any during the sale and that was a big mistake on my part. But I will get some soon and get them up. Julie has turned in a good mommy, even at her young age and her boyfriend has turned into a great daddy. She is having a hard time pulling away from Mike though, and needs to realize that she has a family now. Not that she doesn't need her dad, but that he won't be in her life as much as before. She has to learn to go rely on her husband for the things that her dad was there for. I'm sure that she will get just takes time.

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    Good luck. Watch Ur eating with all the stress U are going through.
    2904 days ago
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    Not yet, her dad is going to talk with her about it and help her see that it isn't a good idea. We also told her that we will pay for the hall that is closer so that won't be a burden on them. It won't be a happy wedding if she has it at my SIL house.
    2904 days ago
    I'm sorry you are going through this. Are you able to let your stepdaughter know how important the plans that you made together are?

    I hope everything goes well for you.

    2904 days ago
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