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A month alone

Friday, June 04, 2010

My husband left a couple of days ago to visit his family in North Dakota. His mother--who is in her 80's--is in the hospital with pneumonia and had a heart attack, so the husband has no idea how long he'll be gone but figures on about a month or so. It all depends on what happens while he's back there.

I'm certainly not afraid to stay by myself--after all, I have a half-deaf, 12 year old, seven-pound pomeranian to protect me--but I didn't think that I'd be lonesome this fast, either. After all these years, even though he drives me up a wall half the time, I've become accustomed to having him around.

We read the paper and drink coffee in the mornings and discuss the news. (Luckily, we both have the same political leanings or else there might be an early morning spousicide in our household.) He constantly reminds me to take my vitamins and usually mows the lawn.

He makes me tea in the evening and he always gives the dog her pills. He never puts anything away once he's used it but I'm even a bit nostalgic for his stuff piled on the dining room table. Sigh.

Life alone has its good points--I can have dinner anytime I want and don't have to worry that he doesn't like spinach with dinner--but I don't think that I'd like to become accustomed to it.
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  • GRAMMACATHY
    Sometimes we need to have that alone time to really appreciate what we have. About three days and I am pining for my hubby. I guess we are really lucky to have husbands that we want back even if they drive us nuts at times.

    I am sorry to hear about your mother-in-law's health. I will pray for your MIL and for strength for your husband while he is away and for safe travel when he returns.
    3993 days ago
  • CATHTAR
    Ohh, I feel for you. I hate it when my husband is away too, even though he annoys me as soon as he comes home - leaving unpacked bags and dirty washing all over the place. Hang in there - try to get together with friends a lot to ease the loneliness.
    3994 days ago
  • no profile photo CD6675752
    I hope you send this to him, it is really sweet and would let him know how much you miss all of him, the good and the messy :-) Maybe you can have some fun via email or snail mail (USPS) while he's gone.

    Hang in there, we're here on SP when you need company too.
    3994 days ago
  • CRIMSONSKY
    Hope your MIL is okay and good luck with the month alone!

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    3994 days ago
  • DERTREFFER
    I don't know if I could deal with a month away from my partner, you're definitely a brave woman! IDK how I would cope, me knowing me I would probably let the house become a wreak and get absorbed in an MMO.

    *sigh*

    Good luck Elsie-Bee! I know that the LAH team will be here for you!

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    3994 days ago
  • ANGELITA333
    Even though it is hard to be alone, take advantage of it because you will probably never get alone time again. I have been waiting 10 years to be in my house for 1 hour alone looks like it will probably be another 10 before that will happen. Maybe you can make a bucket list but instead make a husband does't like when I do this list hahahaha. Good luck keeping yourself busy
    3994 days ago
  • ANGELITA333
    Even though it is hard to be alone, take advantage of it because you will probably never get alone time again. I have been waiting 10 years to be in my house for 1 hour alone looks like it will probably be another 10 before that will happen. Maybe you can make a bucket list but instead make a husband does't like when I do this list hahahaha. Good luck keeping yourself busy
    3994 days ago
  • ANGELITA333
    Even though it is hard to be alone, take advantage of it because you will probably never get alone time again. I have been waiting 10 years to be in my house for 1 hour alone looks like it will probably be another 10 before that will happen. Maybe you can make a bucket list but instead make a husband does't like when I do this list hahahaha. Good luck keeping yourself busy
    3994 days ago
  • DALAI_LALA
    Do you and your hubby have Skype accounts and/or web cams? Sometimes talking on the phone isn't enough, but maybe you could add a web chat to at least be able to see each other...

    (That's my plan, anyway, for the month I'm going away in July...)
    3994 days ago
  • ROOBYBEGONIA
    Awww, that's sweet, El!

    How great to have a companion that you truly miss, though! Isn't it wonderful?
    3994 days ago
  • GINARAE7
    Sweet post :-)
    3994 days ago
  • MORTICIAADDAMS
    I would not like it either. Maybe he will be back early. In the mean time we are here. emoticon
    3994 days ago
  • DANCINGGARDENER
    Awwww.... it is so sweet that you miss your husband this much. So often you hear people complain about their husbands being under foot or unreasonable or irritating. It is refreshing to hear that someone, like me, misses the heck out of their best friend when he's gone.

    You've got a good man there who would leave behind his own best friend for a month to go help his mom. Think of how exciting it will be when the day that he returns approaches. It'll be like being a teen ager when your boyfriend FINALLY gets back from his month family vacation! (now I think I am jealous!)
    3994 days ago
  • BOOKWERME
    I had to care for my Mom's home and menagerie unexpectedly..and she was gone for a month. I had never ever lived alone before. It is full of adjustments..some positive and some not so much. Hope you can look at this as an adventure. If I had been in my own home, I would have tackled projects and done things that I like but that I know he doesn't care to do with me. DH has "gifted" me with some of his projects over the years...painted a porch when I preferred the natural wood emoticon , removing a yucky shelf in my kitchen emoticon , you get the idea.

    Whatever you do, keep in touch by phone or computer..and stay busy if you can. The time will be gone before you know it. Hope your MIL will recover quickly.
    3994 days ago
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