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Persistent Problems

Sunday, May 16, 2010

This is a blog to answer a question(s) on my local team... it's a writing/thinking challenge, writing my thoughts out sometimes is definitely a challenge.

Here's the questions and the challenge...

Persistent Problems –

Whenever you notice a persistent problem in any aspect of your weight loss program—whether it’s related to food choices, exercise, or motivation—try to define the problem in writing.

What specifically are you doing (or not doing) that you need to change?
Why do you think this keeps happening?
What are the major triggers or causes of this problem?

Do this writing without thinking or worrying about being “correct” at first. Just write down whatever comes to you when you are thinking about the problem, and don’t worry about finding solutions at this point. Then, go over what you have written with a fine-toothed comb, looking at the language you used. Do those words make it sound like you’re in charge, or as if something else is in charge of you? Go back through the words you wrote, changing any passive verbs to active verbs ("My lunches are packed by my husband" becomes "I let my husband pack my lunches") and replacing any external forces with "I" statements (“It was too cold to walk outside today” becomes “I decided I didn’t want to walk in the cold today”). Once you have done this, go through your problem statement again and see what solutions come to mind.

Challenge came from the “Put the “I” Back into Your Vocabulary” article.

Here's my go at this challenge... not so sure I know what I'm getting myself into right now, lol.

Q - What specifically are you doing (or not doing) that you need to change? -
A - I'm not eating the best all the time, I keep finding myself overeating. Then when it comes to the exercise bit, lately I've been finding myself exercising only once or twice a week.

Q - Why do you think this keeps happening? -
A - Well, I know I'm not motivated right now... I find myself "thinking" about working out different times, I even open up the exercises that I want to do for my morning workout, but it just sits there all day. I think I get distracted easily. I'm not happy with the way I've been doing things, I've been stressed.
I tend to get frustrated with myself. I don't know why this all is really, I know I must be unmotivated, but I can't seem to get myself out of this rutt. I know hubby is coming home in 12 days, I was pretty motivated, I was doing awesome, I was eating fairly decent, eating moderately and not overeating, I was working out regularly every single day M-F, sometimes Sat. I keep telling/preaching to others that they need not give up on themselves or their journey. When times get tough, sometimes they need to press harder to get the results they want... well then why is it so tough for me to follow my own advice???? I Don't Know! I'm a team leader, yet I don't feel like I'm really leading by example right now, to me being a leader, means to lead and set an example. I can't seem to get this through my thick skull!

Q - What are the major triggers or causes of this problem? -
A - I really do not know the major triggers or causes of this problem, no matter how long I think about it, I can't seem to come up with an answer. Maybe it's the fact that I seem to always be trying to be a people pleaser a lot of the time. I try to please members of my family, I try to please friends, I try to please the team. There for a while when it came to planning the Meet & Greets, I was always trying to please everyone and not upset anyone with the date, I wanted the dates/time to work for everyone's schedules, but... some of the ladies made a suggestion and they were right, I can't always please everyone, there's always going to be some that can't make it for whatever reason. They also suggested making a set time/date for each month. It'll save me from always trying to please everyone with the date/times. LOL

OK, I "think" I'm done... I know I've got a lot of issues here to work through in order to see some results with myself. I know I'm being tooo hard on myself a lot of the time, but for me I feel I need to be hard on myself a little, I need to push myself harder sometimes for the results I want.
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    Thanks for sharing!
    As always you are in my thoughts and prayers.
    Love, your sister in Christ,
    Amy L emoticon
    3110 days ago
    Thanks for sharing
    3110 days ago
    This will help me.
    3110 days ago
    I've read that by identifying a problem--or challenge, as I like to call it--you are 50% of the way to solving it. By putting it in writing and being as honest as you are, I think you are 75% of the way.

    I'm a fan of starting small: pick one goal and make small steps towards achieving it. Although I know this works for me, like you I find it hard to put my own advice into action.

    "You don't have to be great to start; you just have to start to be great." emoticon

    3110 days ago
    Way to go!! I definitely see the need for you to put yourself first. Everyone needs me time. Its the only way to succeed!
    You can do it!
    3110 days ago
    Great job,

    I think this is a great process in tackling a problem,it looks like you were very honest with yourself and us. Being a pleaser or "SUPERWOMAN" is a full time job. Add the job, the kids, the Sig other, the team and you are working way too hard.

    Take some time for you, I think we often forget about ourselves. If you need some help, reach out but most importantly be good to you. You know what to do, you constantly encourage us and give advice. Once you feel good about you all the other things will fall into place.

    We are not going to let you give up !
    3110 days ago
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