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How to respond to what people say...

Sunday, May 16, 2010

The niece of a friend of ours got married yesterday. My husband agreed to do her photography for her, so we went to the reception to take pictures. The menu was salad (no apparent low fat dressing) roast beef, ham, green beans and scalloped potatoes. Everything looked good and the reception was nice. We finished taking group photos and were invited to have lunch before we had to leave. DH and I both filled a plate with salad and a tiny drizzle of dressing. I took a small piece of ham and some green beans (they were good, tasted like they were drowned in butter!!) DH took some beef and ham and green beans. When we sat down, the friend I was sitting next to looked at our plates and said..."you can have more than salad, you can diet tomorrow" I really have to hold myself back when people say things like this. I have learned to hold myself back...you have to, or you alienate people who do not mean any harm. She is a sweet lady and I know she wasn't trying to be judgemental or mean, she just wanted us to enjoy ourselves. I said "it's not a diet, this is just the way I eat. My cardiologist is much happier with me when I eat like this". Her response was that of course I had to watch what I ate and that ended the conversation. I have learned to not take what people say personally. They don't know how we both work to eat healthy and make it our lifestyle instead of a diet. It isn't going to stop at any point. We are both prone to falling off the healthy eating lifestyle wagon and it is harder to climb back on than it is to stay up there! She did make a comment that she thought my DH looked better and had lost weight. That was nice to hear. I have lost 32 pounds since the start of the year and I feel great! I wasn't even tempted to stay and have a piece of cake, and it was chocolate!!! It is so liberating to not feel like food has that power over me anymore! Here I am in my size 16 jeans, down from a 20 in January!!
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    Awesome attitude. Thank you for sharing, this is apparently a challenge we all face one way or another. I sometimes get the same thing about what/how much/when I am eating. Even more I get strange looks and sometimes snide comments when I cut something short to make sure I get my workout in. For me it has to be about what is MOST important... my health or their opinion ... turns out that when I look at it like that... no contest. Do what you gotta do.

    Trust the process. Do right, things go right.
    2898 days ago
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