With friends like these, who needs enemies?
Saturday, May 15, 2010
I was surprised to see an old friend in the coffee shop. She saw me first and came over to say "hello". We used to be best of friends years ago, but have drifted apart as our lives and interests took different directions.
The the next thing out of her mouth was, "Have you been ill?" She wondered if I had cancer, because I looked so thin.
Wow, just when I was feeling and thinking that I looked great. I didn't know what to say, so I mentioned that my doctor thought that my weight was perfect, and that I felt fabulous.
I tried to think of how we drifted apart as friends. Then I recalled years ago when I stopped smoking, and she was still smoking, she mentioned that she could easily quit anytime she wanted. She said she enjoyed smoking so much that she was going to continue.
Why didn't ask her if she was still smoking?
I also recall that we both tried to diet together, since we both fought the battle of the bulge. She was still heavy. Maybe she can lose weight anytime she wants, too? I doubt it.
She used to pressure me to do things I was not comfortable doing, like going along pranks that made me feel uneasy. I am a conservative person, and she always had to be in charge and the leader in any group. I have ignored her attempts to reestablish our friendship.
I was her again a month later in the coffee shop. She told me how wonderful I looked. My weight had not changed since the last time she saw me. I am still wondering if I can stand up to her pressure and control. It may not be worth the risk of asking to be upset again.