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A rough week!

Thursday, May 13, 2010

I havn't written a blog for a few days. I have been kind of down and didn't want to burden anyone with it. I just can't seem to shake the funk that I have been in. I know most of it is concerning my son honestly. He is so on my mind and heart lately. I haven't talked to him in days, I think he is avoiding me so that I won't know how down he is. He doesn't like me to worry....hahaha. Too late for that. He's just a 21 year old boy trying to find his way in the world and it is overwhelming him I think. As a mother all we want to do is try to make it better and honestly I don't know how I can. But it is breaking my heart to know he is struggling. He will be home next week to get his wisdom teeth out so if nothing else I will have his attention then.

I have not let this effect my eating and working out though. I continue to eat the right foods, stay with in my calories. I may even have been low a few days. I also have been working out 2 times a day. My yoga in the morning and my cardio at night. I just haven't lost anything in weeks now. I know I tell everyone just stay with it, it will come. And I know this is true. I honestly don't know what I could change anyway. I feel great right now physically. I think it is my mental state of being that is hindering right now. I can feel the tension in my body. Hopefully I will be able to start letting some of it go and the weight will follow. My May goals was to be at 135 by the end of this month. Well I'm still hovering at 140 for the time being. I'm kind of bummed about it but not even really. I know if I keep doing what I am that it will work out on the scale and in my cloths and all. I just need to get this nagging panic worried feeling to go away. I'm going to work on that....letting things go that I can't change. We'll see what happens. Have a great day!
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  • MOM2PACO
    emoticon Your son will be okay he is 21 with a young man personality change that is occurring. He has to change from a kid into an adult and he might be having trouble converting over and of course "mom" can't help her "boy" with that! He will struggle and he is probably trying to balance it out alone without the help of Mom to see if he can manage on his own. Keep close to him, but let him try to fly alone. Be there to catch him if he falls. As for your weight - 140 is not far from your goal and you are under stress and still managing to keep your routine up!! WAY TO GO!! Keep up the good work and stop being so hard on yourself....you will get there!! Head up! You are looking wonderful and you are beautiful!
    3443 days ago
  • CHANGINGELAINE
    emoticon emoticon emoticon

    Kids are the greatest joy and the biggest worry!
    3443 days ago
  • TKAYSMILES
    Thank you all for the advice. I feel much better today so hopefully this panic is going away!!
    3443 days ago
  • DGRAZIA
    Hope things feel better for you Terri. I can relate to your worries about your son, since I raised two. One is now 49, happily married to a lovely woman; and has three kids. My younger son is 32, and doing well now also. Both went through their own struggles for years, and I can remember crying myself to sleep with worry. With loving support, they find themselves with time and maturity. We will be Mommies all our lives, and will worry about them no matter how old they are:-)
    Take good care of yourself, and know this too ..will pass.
    3444 days ago
  • SISTERDOE
    Never give up! You've gotten a lot of great suggestions.

    Gentle hugs,
    Dotti
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    3444 days ago
  • ROBSMANDY
    I would try having one higher calorie (but healthy) day. It works every time for me. You night want to try adding in some more strength training, either body weight exercises or with dumbbells, to boost your metabolism a bit. You body becomes accustomed to the same activities and calorie levels, and become very efficient, so you have to shake things up to make your body work harder.
    Try not to worry too much about your son. You're his mom, and he'll come to you if he really needs help.
    3444 days ago
  • ROBSMANDY
    I would try having one higher calorie (but healthy) day. It works every time for me. You night want to try adding in some more strength training, either body weight exercises or with dumbbells, to boost your metabolism a bit. You body becomes accustomed to the same activities and calorie levels, and become very efficient, so you have to shake things up to make your body work harder.
    Try not to worry too much about your son. You're his mom, and he'll come to you if he really needs help.
    3444 days ago
  • LASARRE
    sorry about your issues with you son. Been there done that, still doing it. What helped me get over the stuck position was changing things again. I increased my weights and each day I change the cardio. One day I will do DDR, the next I will do BLC Wii or Jillian's Shred Dvd. That's why I love the card challenge, it makes you work your whole body and make sure to do different things. emoticon
    3444 days ago
  • KKNSMOM
    After reading over everyone elses posts - I don't have any different to say. Changing up your exercise routine might be the ticket. Its a good idea to change it every 6 weeks or so to prevent plateaus. Another possibility would be to have a higher calorie day. (only one day) That shocks the body too. Not sure if you did this during the Mother's Day weekend or not. Getting rid of the stress would probably work wonders but I know that is easier said than done. It's so much easier when they are little.

    Just as you have been there for us we are here for you.
    3444 days ago
  • MAMADONNA57
    I have a 20yo son, so I know about the constant worry. I think its harder because you have little or no control over them so you can't protect them the way you could when they were little. I'm sure thing will work out eventually, most of us were pretty messed up as teens/young adult but most of us worked it out and im sure he will too. As for the weight, I think you have the right idea, just hang in there, keep doing what your doing and relax, eventually things will start to move again. Best of luck with everything! emoticon
    3444 days ago
  • SCHNOOKIEPIE
    Don't worry about your son.
    2 years ago I was his age and a mess!
    But now I have a great relationship, a house, some animals, and a great job!
    We all have to struggle to become better people, so you relax and trust in destiny.
    3444 days ago
  • TLAIR0468
    Hang in there! You'll have some time with your son next week and hopefully, together you guys can work it out! I used to think my Mom just looked for stuff to worry about...after all, all of us kids were adults, she shouldn't worry about us anymore. Was I ever in for a big surprise. I probably worry about my boys more as young adults/teenagers than I did when they were little. At least when they were little a Mom really can make it all better!

    Hugs to you!
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    3444 days ago
  • PWINCESSEMILY
    Depending on your height that's a pretty healthy weight. You may find that your body is nearing that time where it finds its own healthy weight - which where variation from person to person comes in.

    Keep doing the healthy stuff you're doing now, and you'll either drop some more or find that this is your perfect place x
    3444 days ago
  • TKAYSMILES
    Thanks for the advice, I try to do something different every day cardio wise so I don't get bored. I do wii, treadmill and some dvd's. I use my yoga as my ST most days, but will try to add some different things, it might help as well!
    3444 days ago
  • VB_SOCO26
    Sorry to hear of your rough week. The stress could be a factor in your battle with the scale. You are doing the right thing by sticking to yur routine. However, you could try to change it up a little by adding a coouple of free weight exercises; like lunges, curls and bent rows. The added weight training could boost your calorie burn, help speed up your metabolism and improve your mood. I hope you start feeling better!
    3444 days ago
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