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Make things happen

Sunday, May 02, 2010

I saw this quote on Aprillscott's spark page:
People can be divided into three groups: Those who make things happen, those who watch things happen, and those who wonder what happened! (Author Unknown)

Unfortunately, I recognize more of myself in the latter two than in the first, those who make things happen. Since my husband died, I seem to be in some kind of identity crisis. Turning 50 later this year will be part of it, I'm sure, but the catalyst is my husband's passing. He was a strong, passionate man who left his mark on me, my life, our home and our family. It was a good mark, but I often made the decision to do or not do things with him in mind. Now I am alone and it's all up to me. It's going to take me a while to get used to this, I think.

I will need to move from seeing my life pass by to havng the idea that I made things happen and have decided to make that my goal for the rest of this year. Deal with my husband's passing, which has left a big hole inside me, and get a grip on my own life.
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    It has been 9 months since your last blog. How are you doing? What are you doing? We are still here when you are ready.
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    2647 days ago
    You are in my prayers! emoticon

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    2798 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/21/2010 12:35:21 PM
    I am so sorry that your husband has passed on. Although my situation is different in that I am 65 - my husband is nearly 70 and 15 months ago, after 25 years of what I thought was a happy marriage, he left me for a mutual friend who is 20 years his junior. We were very close, soulmates is how I would describe how I felt, and I felt so alone and lost and never thought it would get any better. Time does help and I find that by remembering the good and special times we had together I can now smile again and this helps me through.

    Because of what I do I have no time for a social life but I am surrounded by animals who give so much unconditional love I have a different purpose to fulfill - this was all made possible by my husbands hardwork and caring attitude. I really believe that when one door closes another opens to us and we have a new adventure waiting to be explored.

    It will get easier for you as time passes but it will take a while - your husband will always be a very big part of you and from the way you describe him he would want you to remember him with love but would want you to move on to have a fulfilled and happy life.

    Enjoy the rest of your life.
    2935 days ago
    I am so emoticon about your husband! I can not imagine what you are having to deal with at this time! I know that I would feel exactly like you. I think you are doing really well at handling this! I think you are having an identity crisis because the Bible tells us when we marry we become as one. We are two but we become as one! Isn't that amazing because I feel that this is really what happens! He will always be a part of you, and you him! I can understand the hole that is there because part of you is actually missing! I would actually be doing the same thing! And at knowing this is the problem I am sure what I have read enough about him, to know that he would not want you to not move on and become the person that you are--The person That Makes Things Happen---
    because anyone that can lose 50 pounds has to be that person inside!
    You are turning 50 soon I think I read! What a wonderful age I know because I was there 2 years ago! I think Jeannie from my team "Turtles Over 50 Reaching There Goals" would probably tell you to join us! We are a lively bunch of people and I am sure that we all would enjoy your company! The way that I would deal with this I guess is to surround myself with others! It will not hurt to check us out any way!
    The only thing that I have to offer or help is prayer for you, and I believe that if anything in life works prayer is the answer! Know that you are not alone, that we are here for you praying! Know that God is with you always!
    It will not be long I feel you will once again be able to say "I am a person that makes things happen" emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2940 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/2/2010 10:20:22 AM
    I am very sorry about your husband passing away.
    Best of luck with getting your life back on track. My prayers are with you.
    2940 days ago
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