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HOW COULD YOU???

Monday, April 26, 2010

i should be used to it and should have been on the look out for it coming because i knew it would only be a matter of time before he would show up and cause havoc in some way shape form or fashion!

it happens all the time not just to me but everyone!

He started out a couple of week ago with my daughter and i getting into a argument that resulted in us not speaking for a week but im not going to put the that entire situation on him some is her fault to because she is at the I THINK IM GROWN AGE OF 19!!!

Then the drama at the shop instead of being treated like adults and self employed independent contractors were being treated like we work in a commission salon and like we go to daycare!

What brings me to venting today is friday the transmission went out on my truck ...GREAT WHO THE HECK HAS MONEY FOR THAT AT THIS TIME?????? my daughter going to the prom my daughter missing school books that she has to either pay for or find or else she doesnt get her diploma the dress for the prom shoes purse etc......

my mom works at night and it's not very safe for her to catching the bus or subway at 11pm to get to work and if she did that would mean she would have to leave home at 730-800 to get to work on time!

my brother works the same hours but he is off on the weekends ....hold on to your seat when i tell you the rest of this....

My sons godmother said i could borrow her car but i was not able to get on saturday so i told my mom to call her oldest born child my brother who lives about 5mins from us driving 20mins from us walking so he is close NOT OUT OF HIS WAY!!!!!

ARE YOU READY FOR THIS B.S.?????

my mom called and he had the AUDACITY to tell the his mother who gave him life..carried him for 9mths...gives him money when he is broke....bought him food...SAT AT THE HOSPITAL WHEN YOU HAD TO HAVE A PACE MAKER IN FOR YOUR HEART...etc

my mom will /gives us everthing even though were grown my... mom is the best she has never i mean NEVER TURNED HER BACK ON US!!!

i was still at work so i called home to find out if he was taking her and she answered the phone CRYING!!!! YES CRYING!!!

SO YES I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN SINCE SHE WAS CRYING HE WASN'T GOING TO TAKE HER!

I WAS SO PISSED THAT IT GAVE ME A INSTANT HEADACE AND MADE ME CRY!!!

HOW DO YOU TREAT YOUR MOTHER LIKE THAT?

my client who i have become best friends with ended up taking my mother to work!

i found out later on from my kids what my brother said.. my mom didnt tell me because she knew i would go off and give him a good blessing out but HOW....

my brother told my mom "HE WAS NOT ABOUT TO BE A TAXI DRIVER"

it bought tears to my eyes that a total stranger can take your mom to work but you couldn't.....
you know your mom goes to work to have a roof over her head and her job has been acting crazy lately!

i could understand if you would have said mom I have plans but to tell her that!

I WAS PISSED!!!!

he has always been stupid selfish ignorant dum my list goes on.. he is not like me...my mom has done so much for me that i jump threw hola hoops for her but him!!!!

and im so tired of hearing thats how boys are and there different those are just EXCUSES!!!

he is that way because he wants to be thats just being selfish regardless of gender or age or who's relative it is!

i had to call my kids godmother to calm me down becuz i was going to walk to my brothers house and cut up those tires....YOU CANT TAKE YOUR MOTHER TO WORK YOU DON'T NEED TO GO ANYWHERE!

but her being the voice of reason brought me back to reality!

but my brother can call and always want someone to do something for him but you can't do anything for them and if he does do it he is going to complain and rush u!

what i do kno is yeah i will do what the bible says and pray for you but i don't have not a single word to say to him in my head I AM THE ONLY CHILD!

my sons godmother let me use her car someone not related to me but your own blood is some TRASH!

PLEASE DON'T LEAVE ANY COMMENTS TELLING ME I SHOULDNT FEEL THIS WAY OR ACT THIS WAY BECAUSE I ALREADY KNO THIS BUT WHEN IT COMES TO MY MOTHER my brother and i have nothing to be mad about or complain about!

my mother raised both of us worked 2 jobs my brother went to 12yrs of catholic school i did 6 years of catholic at the same time...my mom paid all the bills supported me while i had 2 kids in high school and to this day only makes 45,367 a year and has had the same job for 40 years....i have never seen or been exposed to any man my mom ever dated ..my mom never drank smoked anything...never cursed us..always encouraged us and you treat her like she is trash I DON'T PLAY THOSE GAMES!

I NEVER DID LIKE MY BROTHER i tolerated him....he was not a big brother that helped or spent time with his little sister like other big brothers i have gone for months not seeing or speaking to him but like i said i tolerate him!

I AM MY MOTHERS STRONGEST AND OLDEST CHILD NOT HIM!
MY mom was and is hard on me she always talks about her son this and her son that but i get the blues it pisses me off but i see thats how parents are! but i get things done!

I KNOW GOD HAS A BLESSING FOR ME AND I HAVE ASKED HIM TO HELP MY HEART ABOUT MY BROTHER but until then IM DONE WITH HIM!!!

the bible says that we help our enemies despite that they have wronged us but the bible also says don't BE A FOOL!!!

THANKS FOR READING!

PRAY FOR MY FAMILY!

THE DEVIL IS ALWAYS MINDING SOMEONE ELSE'S BUSINESS!!!
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  • HALLALUYAH
    Yes the Devil does mind other people's business and everything else he can control...If we let him, BUT the thing is "HE HAS ABSOLUTLY NO AUTHORITY OVER YOU OR YOUR FAMILY...IN JESUS NAME"
    So get away from this child of God Devil and go to the dry places where you belong, back off of her finance too, I bind you in the name of JESUS CHRIST of Nazareth, run...this lady will prosper in everything she does while she puts God first....God said that what is bound on earth is bound in HEAVEN and what is loosed on earth is loosed in Heaven...and you have been served notice enemy of God, so flee in JESUS NAME.
    love Luyah

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    4007 days ago
  • ALLNTIME2009
    Hey Lady!!!!

    Now why in the world when I finally log back on to Sparkpeople, and come to your page do I find this!!!!!! But hey, to be honest, I know how you feel. All you can do is your part and pray that God handles the rest. Holla at me.

    Reagan
    4102 days ago
  • KROLES55
    Praying for you today... So sorry that your brother is so ungrateful, perhaps one day he will grow and mature and realize what a precious mother he has. I am glad that you are there for your mom...

    Stay strong
    4108 days ago
  • MUSTANG0421
    I'm glad you got that off of your chest! We all know that we can only control or change our own behaviors. Your brother sounds like a toxic person for you right now, distance yourself so that the poison doesn't affect you. I will pray for you and your Mom to be able to continue to tolerate your brother. I will pray that he will find value in his family's love. Be thankful for the angels God has placed in your life.
    4108 days ago
  • JUDITHBEAST
    I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through with your brother. I'll be praying with you. emoticon
    4109 days ago
  • COCOINAZ
    You and your family are in my prayers. I have learned you can't change peoples ways. This is the person he has become, he is still family, you love him as family, but you don't have to like him. For people in my life like that, I tend to keep them at a distance and let them be them. Otherwise it'll be the next thing to get your upset. You and your mother will figure it out, and let her know that she can lean on you and you will come up with a solution together. He's going to need you or your mother soon, and when he does, karma is a ...well you know! Hang in there diva and don't give him the power to determine your joy.

    Coressa
    4109 days ago
  • NANC304
    I'm sorry your brother is being so difficult. I'm not going to tell you to forgive him or anything like that. I don't plame you for being upset. I would be too. Remember that in the end he'll get what's coming to him.

    I hope you feel better.
    4109 days ago
  • WALKNLOVE
    I know you are mad, but forgive him and move on.It's more for your benefit than it is for his.Trust me, he doesn't even know you are mad or that he did anything wrong.(Crazy,huh?)Let go & let God.Praying for you sister...and it sounds like you have a WONDERFUL mother.Plan a party for her on mother's day & bake her a cake,pick her flowers and write her a "love note" letting her know what a great Mom she is! She will appreciate the heartfelt gift from a very loving daughter!
    4109 days ago
  • LOLOKIRK
    The devil stays busy all the time. I will pray that you find peace and a resolution with your family situation. Thanx for sharing. Trust and believe some or all of your Spark Friends have gone thru similar situations.

    Stay strong.
    4109 days ago
  • JUICYBABY
    I am praying for you. You know I am a text message away. . . Love you!!!
    4109 days ago
  • no profile photo CD2672953
    I hope things work out for you and your family. I will pray for you.
    4109 days ago
  • BIGDAD1211
    I know I may be about to get beat up here emoticon , but you should continue to love your brother and keep praying for him. Ask God to work in his heart and to let him see that the love of Jesus is the only love we need. Jesus said that we should forgive those who wrong us 7 times 70! Don't let your brother's ways dictate how you treat folks. Let the Holy Spirit guide you in how to deal with him, but continue to love him. And continue to keep Mom lifted in prayer. God does provide for his children. Look how he sent an angel to make sure your Mom got to work.
    I will be praying for your family my friend and for you. Remember how Jesus loved us even after all the things we did to Him. We can at least try to love those in our lives who drive us nuts! emoticon
    In Jesus Name
    Greg
    4109 days ago
  • PRAYDANCRUNLOVE
    Sista,
    A vent is healthy. Now, utter a prayer, give it to God, and move ahead like the strong woman your mother raised you to be.
    Grace and peace,
    Chelle
    4109 days ago
  • TAYLORLIV31
    Girl, I feel you! What you and your Mom needsto do is to feed him with that long handled spoon. I went through something so similiar but it wound up killing my Mom. All the hard years that she worked and struggled and in the end, the main ones that brought her down were overwhelming when she died. It was almost as if they made more noise to make the rest of us appear to love her less.

    I have come to realize that you cannot make sense out of crazyness. You can accept it or remove it from your life. Your children are learning how to be adults from the audience that it has on hand........don't continue the drama......get free of it and love, love, love that Mama of yours.......I sure wish mine was here......but I know she is here in spirit.

    Keep on fight the good fight......and ditch the ones that God has to handle.....trust in due time.......God will answer that problem. emoticon emoticon
    4109 days ago
  • TAMIA1575
    I was going to go with the don't be a fool thing! Yes, we are to help our enemies, love our enemies...but at the same time girl... don't do for him. If he needs help in the form of someone to talk to or encourage him, then so be it. He needs money or something else...tell him you're sorry but you can't offer that type of help right now.

    I don't know how you kept your cool, I would have been at his house pointing out all that your mom did and then asking him why he thinks he's so important that all must do for him but he can't do for anyone else?

    Someone should let him know he's a selfish bad word...lol.
    4109 days ago
  • no profile photo CD2039903
    I feel you on the brother issue I REALLY FEEL you! I am going to pray with you that everything turns out for the good. Be Blessed! emoticon
    4109 days ago
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