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Saturday, April 24, 2010

Yesterday I volunteered doing something I enjoy. I was absolutely shocked when another member of the group sponsoring the project told me not to come back because I couldn't get around well enough to do some aspects of the job.

While he was correct about my disabilities, he was way off base about my abilities. I started to talk back in defense and then decided it was not a good idea. He did something others hadn't. He made me look at my abilities.

I have been "disabled" for several years, but that has never held me back, well not much. My family got really unhappy with me when I wanted to go rollerskating one day. I am still trying to figure out how to do that safely. I think I may have a solution now.

I never gave much thought to concentrating on the coulds instead of the couldn'ts. My "friend" made me think about all the things I can and do. I realized that I consistently try to walk alone. There are some days when I know I am not going to be able to walk without assistance and I use whatever device is best suited my my need that day. I do keep going. I am not about to let myself sink back into the black hole of depression that would come if I didn't stay actively engaged in community.

I realized that I seek out people who have abilities. Those people are fully alive and bring me into a world of activity. I do not select my friends from those people who have disengaged themselves from participating in an active life. In the first place I have no idea how to contact them. I love to play, and laugh. My friends bring sunshine into a life that could have been very grey.

I am grateful for my "Friend" for pointing out to me just how much I like to push against the barriers of life. I will return to my volunteer work and I will enjoy every minute. I am able. I intend to stay that way.
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    WaHoo!! Hooray for you. I have no normal arms and legs but my family has nevver made me feel disabled! DH says we can do anything we want to do...we just do it differently!
    2979 days ago
    Have you ever see the scientist, Jim (forgot his last name) in a wheelchair and what a mind he has and uses? My son has a customer who has always been in a wheelchair and he is always coming up with some idea for his wheelchair; this winter for a snow plow on his chair. They are not held back. Perhaps the person did not realize what they said. We are all limited in some way. emoticon
    2979 days ago
    2980 days ago
    Judy, You have a lot of grit and I admire you for that. When we limit ourselves to what is comfortable for us, we will never improve. Keep pushing, but don't overdo. Hugs, Jane
    2980 days ago
    I'm glad you can see something good, from an event that could have deflated you. It's so easy to give up after some one takes the wind out from underneath you. Because you are strong and believe in yourself, this event just added to your 'can do' spirit!!

    Thanks for sharing and teaching me something.
    2980 days ago
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