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Worrying when I see my SparkFriends list shrink

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Have any of you ever noticed when your friends list shrinks by one, and you then proceed to sort of worry about this person who has apparently left....wondering if they are okay?

It might be stupid. I mean, we are all big kids, right? And as with other social networking sites, people come and go all the time. But for some reason, staying here seems more urgent than is, say, staying on Facebook or whatever. I guess maybe because for some of us, staying on Spark could mean the difference between life and death.

Maybe I'm a tad over-invested here...but I guess I can't help but worry about whoever it was who left. Did they give up? Jeez...I sure hope not.

I don't believe that one can fail here..until they just give up and leave. Until my fellow LOST fans will attest, everything else is just progress.

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    I know what you mean. When a SparkFriend you've connected with regularly goes "missing" you hope they're just taking a break. Unlike our "physical plane" friends we can't just pick up the phone and ask how they're doing, and provide support if they've encountered one of life's many challenges. It's an odd feeling when that's your first instinct and you can't do it!
    4077 days ago
    I only worry if it was someone I was actually interacting with. Haven't had that happen on SparkPeople yet. Everyone goes through different stages in life and rarely are we in the same stage as someone else. Cherish those you have and wish the lost ones well. emoticon
    4078 days ago
    Have I been losing friends??! ;p

    I don't pay attention, not because I don't care -- in WW (in and out, myself!) since 1983, people come and go & it's *their* journey...nothing to do with me!

    It's great having people to share experiences with, absolutely! emoticon
    4078 days ago
    You are a very caring person with lots of friends. You have over a 100 friends.

    People are different in lots of ways. Some of us, including me, like to keep only those that I am actually interacting with or hope to keep interacting with. Some team leaders add everyone on their team to their friend list and remove them if they notice they have left the team. Nothing bad about any of these ways of being friends - just differences in people. And that's a good thing!
    4078 days ago
    I so identify with what your saying...A spark friend went poof...gone. I gather she is alright..but it puzzles me as to what went wrong. Positive side is one can return..Good blog.. emoticon
    4078 days ago
  • DS9KIE
    I agree and i hope that they are all doing well.
    4078 days ago
  • MSSTM1
    I feel the same way. I keep hoping they will reappear but its rare that they do. I just hope for the best for them.
    4078 days ago
    Just the other day, I went through such a process. I left teams that I'm no longer active in and, yeah, I removed friends because I wasn't in touch with them. Please note that I don't have many friends in real life, either, but the friendships I do have are very close-knit.

    I feel no less motivated in my journey. It's just that I changed since I started a few months ago. I only have one SparkFriend now, and that's because she's with me on a walking challenge. I guess what I'm trying to say is that removing a friend doesn't necessarily signal disaster.
    4078 days ago
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