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How do you keep everything in perspective?

Saturday, November 11, 2006

Way back when I had my twin girls and life was crazy, I was overwhelmed, felt incapable, and like a horrible mother.... I learned slowly that I need to set boundaries for myself. I can't please everyone, I just need to please myself. If I am not happy, no one is. So I have in the meantime become a master in forgiving myself, cheering myself on, laughing about my mistakes, and giving myself room to relax when I need it. I am now the happiest person I can even think of, and it was a lot of work to get there, but boy did that pay off. I don't dwell on mistakes, overeating, not exercising, or having a bad hair day. I move on and make better choices. And sometimes worse ones. But in the end, all I work towards is being happy. I take pleasure in the details. Little slipups can add up to be a bigger one, but so can little successes. I do like I learned in clicker training my dogs. Ignore the unwanted behavior and only focus on the good stuff. What a revolutionary idea.... imagine ignoring the fact that you ate too much chocolate, and instead making a conscious choice to get your fruits and vegetables in that day. What matters in the end, are the good things. We shouldn't forget that EVER.
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    Hi. That's an excellent philosophy! It sounds as though you have found a real place of inner peace! Well done!
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