Made fun of for my weight today...

Wednesday, April 07, 2010

So for those who have any significant weight to lose, I'm sure we've all had those times where someone has made fun of us. This seems to happen to me a lot. Usually it's people yelling things to me from cars as I walk down a street. It's been happening to me since I was young, probably around 10, and it hasn't gotten any less painful despite how often it seems to happen.

Well, today's incident happened as I walked to the store to get laundry detergent. As I was walking out, this man in what looked like his late forties looked at me and said "Very fat!"

It hurts so much. Who is he to criticize me? How dare he? I found out today that I lost 16.5 pounds. I've been working so hard, and here comes this man who thinks he can just say anything to me, like I'm less than human, like I'm a dog or trash that he can judge and discard.

Ironically, this was not the first time this particular man has said this to me! He must live in my area, because he's made a hurtful remark about my weight on the same street I was on (it's a popular street near my college campus). So this time, I was going to stand up for myself!! How dare he!

I almost let it go, but then I turned to him and said, "HEY! You're a jerk!" and he just said, "you need to lose..." and walked in the store. It took all my willpower not to follow him and criticize him, shame him for all of his bad life decisions. Do you smoke? Do drugs? Drink? Gamble? Because I'm going to very publicly, very painfully shame you for YOUR bad decisions. Stupid, stupid, small man.

I'm NOT going to let it affect me. I'm losing weight. I'm healthier than I've been in a very long time. I'm doing my best, and unfortunately outer appearance isn't necessarily a direct reflection of inner discipline, but soon it will be. In the meantime, I just need to FORGIVE and understand that people have no idea what I'm going through.
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  • no profile photo CD6134837
    It is so ridiculous when people do this!! We have to wear our pain so why do people need to criticize? You are doing a great job!!
    3706 days ago
  • no profile photo CD6716634
    That's terrible! Just remember that you've lost 16 pounds! You're working toward YOUR goals, not his. He's not worth your time, hun. Keep working hard and you'll get to where you want to be. :)
    3706 days ago
    I hate that, it's happened to me since I was young too. I remember one time I was rollerblading with my friend and someone drove by and yelled "You're fat!" So I yelled back "Thanks for the newsflash, asshole!" :)
    3707 days ago
  • no profile photo CD6944678
    I am so sorry that happened to you. People don't realize how hurtfull comments like that are or how often it occurs. Keep your head up! You are a better human being than he is!! emoticon
    3708 days ago

    Just remember... You are losing that weight, and he will still be a jerk!

    You have been doing great work. You are making progress. All of your SparkFriends are behind you and supporting you. We know how hard you are working.

    Keep it up!

    3708 days ago
    He doesn't define you. you define you. Keep your head up high and tell them next time to be a little more creative. If that is all they come up with. Seriously focus on your goal and forget the people. There is always going to be jerks out there. Great loss by the way. You are on your way. I hope you keep going. Hugs. emoticon
    3708 days ago
    Try doing what I do...

    Focus on all of the things about yourself that are AMAZING, as I am sure there are plenty. Let yourself get a little cocky! :-)

    I always tell myself that I'm working on making my wrapper reflect what's inside the whole package, and that seems to motivate me.

    Good luck, and forget the nutter who thinks saying such a thing in public is in any way, shape or form acceptable. emoticon
    3708 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/7/2010 5:10:46 AM
    Hope you don't mind me commenting here - I HATE people who decide to openly criticise.

    I make fun of MY weight regularly... it's MY way of coping and I don't mind that - I also share that humour...

    But that's MY choice... for someone else just to do it for the sake of being nasty, or because THEY think it's funny - well that's out of order!

    Remember though - you are taking the time and the energy to change and that's an admirable quality - what's that guy doing to prevent being a jerk? Nothing with the sound of things.

    Hope this all makes sense!


    3708 days ago
    You know this is what SPARK is here for, we as a group of people who have been put down,humiliated, ignored, shamed etc, etc.

    WE ARE HERE FOR EACH OTHER!!! We cheer each other on , we cry with those that hurt, we befriend those who are lonely and isolated, WE ARE SPARK PEOPLE and we do this journey together and TOGETHER we SUCCEED!!!

    We are healthier Physically, and mentally and yes Spiritually because of Spark.When the world calls us names we just draw closer to our Spark Family.

    I am so glad that we were here for you today , because you ARE valuable. You are a precious gift to the rest of us Sparkers You are our Friend and one day we may need you as much as you needed us today. Big Hug to you my FRIEND! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3708 days ago
  • JAYJO64
    Sorry that happened to you. That is not the action of a normal human being. You're accomplishing great things and have a lot to be proud of. Don't let the actions of a crazy fool like him let you lose sight of that.

    3708 days ago
    He has no right to judge. Keep working hard and one day when you walk by him he won't recognize you, he'll compliment you and you can ignore him and walk on by, proud that you worked hard and look great. emoticon
    3708 days ago
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