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Why would one be embarrassed to exercise?....

Monday, April 05, 2010

I've been so good about getting my steps in--unless dh is here. He knows I want to lose weight, it's not a secret, but when he's home, I can't/don't so much as say, "gonna take a walk down the driveway"!!!!!!!!!!! Don't get me wrong, he is totally supportive, I just feel shy about saying stuff like that!?! Why would I be embarrassed to say I'm going to take care of myself now, I'm going to get healthy, I'm going to take some time for myself? It ticks me off!!
Well, now that I've got that vent off my chest, I guess I've given myself a new "to do"--exercise in front of my husband--oh heavens!!
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  • TEMPEST272002
    I also have a supportive husband - but he's been down this road with me a few times before. When I first started, I didn't want to talk about what I was doing, because I wasn't feeling confident. I was giving it another "try", but since I wasn't sure I could succeed, I didn't want to share my plans. I realized though, that this is the same thing I have done each time in the past: hid my weight loss plans in case I didn't follow though. It was really "failing" that I was afraid of, not my husband's (or anyone else's) criticism.

    A lot of overweight people are perfectionists. We would rather not try at all, than try and fail. When we do try, we keep our efforts secret - and deprive ourself of vital support. This kind of thinking is part of what led to weight gain in the first place! Kick your Inner Perfectionist to the curb! She's not your friend!

    Sure, it will be uncomfortable for you - but push past it! It's alright for you not to be perfect, right now and every other day! Learn to treat yourself with the same gentle, kindness that you would treat your best friend.

    Your husband loves you and he sees you differently than you see yourself. You might think nasty thoughts about your jiggling body, he probably looks at it and thinks hmmm, wonder if I can get me some? emoticon

    So my advice to you: tell your husband your inner fears. Doing this will help build intimacy between you, will provide him with the opportunity to support you and will make you less likely to back out of your next exercise session.

    You CAN do this! You ARE worth it!
    3248 days ago
    I feel embarrased while staying with my girl friend and her husband. They have a treadmill and I will use it if they are not there! If they are home I just don't feel right using it.

    3248 days ago
    I so totally understand where you are coming from, and I agree with Melissa. You are SO worth it! You deserve that time, and I am sure your hubby will be even more supportive!
    3269 days ago
  • NHGRL68
    It will become natural after a while. And you are SO worth the effort:-) Maybe it will even inspire your husband to get out walking with you or doing some activity, if he doesn't already. emoticon emoticon
    3269 days ago
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