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One Day At A Time!

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

One Day At A Time!

This holds true for so many things! I first heard it at an Overeaters Anonymous meeting. Then I heard it in a song. It has become my mantra.

When my mother died 6 years ago, I started assisting my dad. Words are very important - assisting gives him more independence than if I say I help him.

The first year he was hospitalized 7 times for various operations. I started telling him that we will take things One thing at a time, One day at a time. We still do it.

I believe his knowing that I am concerned gives him the courage and desire to try to get better. This morning he resumed his leg exercises!

One day at a time. If you learn nothing else from SparkPeople, take it One day at a time. When today is over, quit worrying about what you ate and how you did. Just be thankful that tomorrow we are able to try again!
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    I just replied to your last blog and this one caught my eye, so I read it. Just what I needed to be reminded of. You are such a special and caring lady, I don't know how you fit everything in . All I know is that I see your words of encouragement daily on SP and it picks me up.I hope you take at least half as good care of yourself as you do everyone else. You are sooooooooooooo worth it. Love Ya, Gal.......Judy emoticon
    2963 days ago
    One day at a time is exactly right -- and what you are doing for your father is so important: the physical care, the consciousness of his independent and his dignity.
    2973 days ago
    Thank you for reminding us.
    2973 days ago
  • FRAN0426
    What a wonderful blog and oh so true, live for today as best you can but don't dwell on it once it has passed. Your father is so fortunate he has you to help him, I'm sure he appreciates this very much. To you and your family have a wonderful, happy Easter weekend
    2973 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/3/2010 5:41:56 PM
    You are definitely loved here, as well as at home. It is beautiful that you can assist your dad. One day at a time is a great mantra. And sometimes, it is one thing at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at a time, one breath at a time. It is so easy to let them pile up one you, when you don't need to do but one at a time. Very wise, Linda. Take care. Love, Marsha
    2973 days ago
    Hi Linda. I'm just catching up on your blogs after being away.

    I'm sorry that you're under so much pressure just now but pleased that you are being sensible about priorities. Your family and YOU must take precedence.

    One day at a time is a wise philosophy.

    You have always been there for your many Friends. I appreciate this and hope that you can feel just as supported by Sparkies who are sending love to you and your family.

    Annie x

    2973 days ago
    This MUST be the message that I am supposed to read tonight. This is the 3rd blog in a row that I have read with the theme "One Day At A Time". Thanks for reminding me of what is important. I love that every day has a new beginning and can be a do-over. Love ya, Dawn emoticon
    2974 days ago
  • SUZ139
    (((HUG))) I also live by this motto...
    Linda, Thank you for being such a loving and caring person one day at a time!
    2975 days ago
    My folks are now gone, but you are right - one day at a time.
    As long as you can keep your dad safe and maintain his dignity, you are miles ahead.
    Thoughts and prayers with you and yours.
    2976 days ago
    Very well said, it's funny you wrote this blog because this has become my way of looking at things..focus on today and live for it, no point regretting the past and no sense worrying about the future.
    I think it's admirable that you assist your father, good for you.

    2976 days ago
    2976 days ago
    Perfect timing for your lucid and to-the-point message. Thanks as always, Linda.
    2976 days ago
  • GTRGRL97
    Thank you for this great blog, and the beautiful reminder!

    Blessings, Katie emoticon
    2976 days ago
    It certainly is how I take it with my mom! :-) You have a great attitude.
    2976 days ago
  • ASOPA21
    Thanks for the encouragement and insight. So too often we want instant gratification instead of taking it one day at a time. I think we all need to remind ourselves of this every once in a while.
    2976 days ago
    You have the right attitude.
    2976 days ago
    You touched a soft spot with me, Linda. My "big sister" has total renal failure, congestive heart failure and is insulin dependant diabetic. Two months ago she had her 2nd silent heart attack which caused other problems including kidney failure. She has only been out of the hospital for 3 days and they had to rush her back 2 weeks ago. She now has a permanent port in her left arm for dialysis which she gets 3 times a week. Yesterday they released her to a rehab home where she will be for the next 21 days. In three weeks my other sister is having a large yard sale selling a lot of her stuff. In other words, she'll never go back to living on her own again. She's only 66 yrs old. This is so very hard for me and my other sister. She's always been there for us. She's got her masters in Elementary Ed and in Librarianship. But she's wasting away.

    The phrase my other sister, Terry, who is a nurse, always tells me is....we'll take this one day at a time....

    My heart goes out to you and I pray for you too. You're an awesome woman and daughter and wife to have to bear what you have to bear on a daily basis! Hang in there and trust God, He'll get you through this...one day at a time.
    2976 days ago
    It's all in how you say it (help vs assist). One day at a time-good advice! Thank you for sharing. You are a very strong person and I hope you have a great day!
    2976 days ago
    Thank you for the WISE WORDS.

    It would be much more palatable than to be helped.

    I'm gonna assist my way from now on!

    Thanks for sharing!
    And of course, have a SPlendid Day!
    2976 days ago
    So many of my elder care clients keep going day after day because they don't want their kids to be mad or upset or sad if they give up (or worse).
    One day at a time is the best we can all do, in so many ways.
    2976 days ago
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