Always a work in progress...

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

So I managed to drag myself to the Y this morning, alone. It's so easy to put off working out when you don't have a workout partner, but H is going to be gone for at least three more weeks so I have to get used to forcing myself. The workout went all right, but I'm still working on getting enough calories to have the energy to work out, so it was a fairly light work out by my standards. But I think I managed to find a way to sneak in some extra calories, so maybe tomorrow will be more rigorous.

I just talked to a friend of mine who is morbidly obese and having congestive heart failure. :( She's in rehab right now because she hasn't got enough strength in her legs to stand, and her attitude is very negative. She's refusing to do physical therapy unless they get her pain meds. I can understand that she is in pain and doesn't want to be. She spent most of the phone call complaining that she hates the food they serve her. What I don't understand is why she doesn't seem to want to get better. I've been doing this low-carb diet for two years now--right now I'm trying the Metabolism Miracle plan to see if I can't get off some of my medications--and my friend has seen what a huge difference I've made in my life. Our circle of friends has many people who eat low-carb or at least more nutritionally sound. But my friend, who is diabetic, still eats junk and sugar and refuses to do any exercise at all. I understand that it's hard. I don't understand why she seems to want to die. It upsets me quite a lot, and I'm afraid I've withdrawn rather than see her hurt herself. Why would she rather be sick than make some changes? Anything is better than what she's doing now. I'm so sad and worried.
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    Perhaps she is depressed? I've seen this a lot in older people... they just don;t care when that happens!

    Good for you getting to the Y to get in some exercise!

    emoticon ~ Janel:)
    3993 days ago
    You know to make change is a scary prospect for people even if the change is the best thing for you and failure is even scarier. I have a couple of friends over the years that had more of less refused to make changes even though it was a matter of life or death. The only thing I have found is to try to set an example for them and provide support for them so they can make the right changes. She has to be the one that needs to decide to make the changes. You might mention some different eating plans that you know others have used with success as well as mentioning how much better you feel without the meds and the energy you are experiencing since getting up and moving. My thoughts and prayers for your friend and you for being there and caring about her. Brightest blessings and warm hugs.
    3994 days ago
    Sometimes it's really hard to imagine being in someone else's shoes. Certainly you've been on a track of a healthier lifestyle, eating the right foods, trying to watch your weight, trying to get off medication and working out. However, for some, this doesn't seem an option. It's not really a matter of wanting to die but really what a lot of it amounts to is that losing weight/being healthy requires more work than some are willing to put in. And for some, that's not enough of a reason not to try. For some it's fear of failure. Fear that if they do something and fail at it, they feel they will always fail. They may even see it as their only hope and if they "fail" then they lose all hope. I can't speak for her and I obviously don't know her, but she may need more support right now than any other time. She may even just be a person who believes that no one believes they can make themselves better. I would offer her encouragement and although it may be hard for you to listen to her, she may just need to talk to someone. I hope this helps and I wish her the best of luck.
    3994 days ago
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