Friday, November 03, 2006
So one of my new action steps has given me the task of writing about some issue in my life that might be giving me trouble reaching my goal. Up tell now I have avoided writing something so personal for the public. I mean really anyone on the net can read this. Maybe it's the fact I have the cold from hell and I am not in my right mind, but I have decided today is the day I will do this. Who knows perhaps it will be cathartic for me. I just have to do it before I chicken out. No regrets right.
My Mother was diagnosed with alcohol induced dementia three years ago. After my Father died she began drinking very heavily, and that eventually led to brain damage. She is only 71, but she looks and acts so much older. She has been living in a boarding house for seniors, where she gets her meals prepared, but still had some freedom. I would have looked after her myself, but we were in such a small place that we would not have had the room. I have Power of attorney so I control her finances, and she can't drink anymore.
Over the last few years I have watched her steadily decline. It has become increasingly more difficult for her to remember things, and the level of care she needs has gone up. I know it should be no surprise to me, but the woman who runs her house has just given her an eviction notice, since she can no longer provide the care my mum needs.
All I can say is thankfully my mother has a community care worker, otherwise this would be even harder than it already is. She is busy trying to find my mum a permanent place, and has found a respite bed she can stay in for two months if nothing turns up in time. It also looks like that where ever she goes, she will most likely not be able to take all her furniture with her. I am hoping she can at least keep some of her favourite possessions with her. I wish I could look after her now that I have a bigger place, but she needs so much more care than I would ever be able to give her.
So far I have been pretty good about not letting the stress of all this get to me, and ruin my diet. It has not been easy, normally I would be face first in a tub of ice cream ( I only had one small bowl). Thankfully my Dh and father in-law have been so supportive with all of this or I would have fallen apart a long time ago. I just have to remember that no matter what, she will be going somewhere that she can get the best care possible.